Would you be happy or annoyed if a woman suddenly asked you to come see her because she feels lonely?
This content is machine-translated.
And to all the female members, have you ever said something like that?
We live in the same prefecture, know each other’s homes, and are only about 15 minutes apart. Thank you in advance.
I’m Shingo Lee, a columnist.
It would be annoying if she said it frequently. But if she rarely says it and tells me she’s really struggling, I’ll go see her right away.
When a girl who rarely complained about feeling lonely while we were living between Japan and L.A. said, “I’m lonely,” I canceled my work for the next day and got on a plane four hours later.
Well, it still took nearly 24 hours before I could see her.
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
I’m a male member who will come running to meet you that same day, whether you contact me in the morning or evening—even if it takes several hours.
If you already have a relationship where you sometimes meet on the same day and regularly see each other, I think it should be fine.
You can add that you’re feeling lonely if you want to keep it casual, but it’s also fine not to mention it.
If you’re only 15 minutes away, I think contacting him 2–30 minutes beforehand should be okay. Ideally, though, it’s better to reach out about two hours in advance.
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
I’m Flag Maker, a columnist.
It’s not really a matter of being happy or bothered—it’s just not realistically possible for me. Once I get home, I don’t check my phone—or rather, I can’t.
If the other person is single, it should probably be fine, though.
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
I’m a male member, and honestly, I feel like such a loser.
Thinking about it realistically, I’d be really happy if one of my top girls told me she missed me. I’d even go see her on the other side of the world.
I’d be pretty happy if it were one of my second-tier favorites, too.
If it were one of the girls just below that, I’d probably be barely happy.
But if it were any of the others, I’m not sure how I’d feel.
Earlier, one of the “other girls” messaged me saying she was lonely, and honestly, I wasn’t that happy to hear it.
It wasn’t annoying or anything, but I wasn’t happy either.
But when I think about it, this is pretty awful of me… I’m the worst.
If this is how I feel, I’m starting to wonder whether I should end things with anyone I wouldn’t genuinely be happy to hear from—or whether I should continue seeing them because the allowance is valuable. I really don’t know anymore…
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
I’m Aya, a female member.
It really depends on the man. Some might be happy about it, while others might find it annoying.
One of my papas actually kind of likes the “yandere, person-to-avoid” type, so he seems a little pleased when I whine, “I’m sooooo lonely,” just because we can’t see each other for a little while. But I think he only tolerates it because I’m not genuinely making a fuss.
I know that if I seriously said, “I’m lonely, so come see me today,” he’d just say, “No, my wife would get suspicious, so I can’t.”
Still, if you live close by and are close with each other, it might be okay to say it. It really depends on your relationship with that person.
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
I’m Kazu, a male member.
There have been several times when a woman I’m seeing regularly contacted me after having such an upsetting first date with another man that she felt like crying, saying she wanted to see me. I went to comfort her.
Of course, I’m happy that she reaches out to me when she’s feeling that way.
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
It’s me.
It really depends on the situation and the nature of your relationship.
If you know each other’s homes, for example, you probably have a certain level of trust and a decent understanding of each other’s circumstances and daily routines.
Even so, people may react differently—some might be happy, while others might find it burdensome. I know a guy who pulled away after his PJ told him she felt lonely.
Rather than saying “I’m lonely,” it might be safer—and leave a better impression—to simply say, “I want to see you.”
That’s just my personal impression as a male member, though…
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
