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Sep 11, 2021 06:52
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I’ve received offers from about 20 people here and gone on dates with them, but most of them weren’t a good fit. For example, they mostly talked about themselves or bragged, interrupted me before I’d finished speaking, went to a hotel without discussing the allowance, or tried to have unprotected sex, among other things. Are people here really mostly like that? They aren’t, right?
That said, there was one person among them who was truly wonderful. We had a great back-and-forth conversation, and he was kind with a genuinely good personality. Maybe because I’d met so many people who were the opposite, I was really happy to meet someone like him!
Even so, after meeting 20 people, I only found one I really clicked with. Is that normal? I keep wondering whether there might be something wrong with me, and thinking about all sorts of things.
6 answers
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Maezawa from the CEO’s office here, and I’ll answer as well.
Universe Club’s sales are currently on an upward trend. I assume that’s because the number of male members is steadily increasing.
But where are these new male members coming from?
When I think about it, they seem to be men who used to enjoy the adult entertainment industry or men who had been active on dating apps.
If that’s the case, then a place that was originally intended for gentlemanly men may be turning into a place where mostly non-gentlemanly men—coming from apps or the adult entertainment industry—are active. Perhaps the ratio has become something like 1:20.
I wish Universe could take a firmer stance with its male members, but maybe that’s difficult.
That’s why I’ve been suggesting that we create a separate course that only exemplary male members within Universe can join. But people just laugh it off, saying, “What would be the point when SALON already exists?”
Still, I feel that if things continue this way, it could eventually become a serious problem.
I think women who are fine with the current Universe can stay there, but if women who aren’t satisfied gradually leave, then I believe we’ll need a separate place for gentlemanly men.
If a man gets consistently bad reviews from women, he could first receive a suspension(笑)—30 days, 60 days, or 90 days, for example. Anyone who keeps repeating the same behavior could then be forcibly removed.
That way, women who want to meet good men would come to that service, while women who are satisfied with the kind of men currently at Universe could simply remain registered there.
> Is that really how it is? I’ve been wondering whether I’m somehow the problem, among other things.
I had imagined that about one in five men would be good. Perhaps those men are in a different segment from the women who receive offers from them.
Other
I’m Shingo Lee (Shingori), a columnist.
I don’t mean everyone is like this, but I think a certain number of people at these clubs make up for being unable to hold an enjoyable conversation—and therefore not being popular—with money and the services they provide. So I suppose it’s only natural, and you can safely assume that this is part of the screening process.
If you have two out of the three—time, appeal, and connections—you can probably be popular without using these services.
That said, everything besides appeal is also a resource you need in business, so I imagine many of you are people who put a lot of effort into your careers.
A~Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月1程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Dai, a male member.
It’s still a good thing that you found someone you clicked with out of 20 people.
From a man’s perspective, I’ve met around 30 women, and only two or three have continued seeing me. So I suppose that’s about the odds of finding a good match.
By the way, don’t you also come across people—such as bosses—who only talk about themselves, brag, or interrupt others?
People who are good at their jobs know how to handle those situations while still getting their own ideas across. You should work on developing that skill too.
Going to a hotel without negotiating the allowance, or insisting on going without protection without mutual consent, is bad etiquette. Please report it to the club.
Other
As you said, it may be only about 1 in 20 who I come to really love.
That doesn’t mean the others are terrible people—they’re just ordinary, decent people. Except for those who spend most of the conversation badmouthing others, and those in their 60s who say they’re looking for someone to remarry and therefore want everything for free.
Marika
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kazu, a male member.
I often hear that it’s somewhere between one-fifth and one-twentieth from the women’s perspective. I think the ratio varies depending on each woman’s personality, boundaries, and luck.
🏅 プロおぢ。ほんとはプロパパと名乗りたいけど名乗るほどの実力がない名古屋の汚っさんです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m one of the male members who always seems to strike out.
I’ve heard similar opinions from many women—that the odds of finding a good papa (a male supporter) are about 1 in 20.
I sometimes ask, “Did you mean 1 in 10?” But they usually say something like, “No, definitely not. If it were one in ten, we’d consider ourselves lucky.” So I don’t think the questioner is at fault at all.
That said, I’m apparently one of the 19 myself…