When I find out he’s making offers to all kinds of girls, I lose interest.

I’m Aya, a female member. I feel the same way as the person asking the question. When a papa hides the fact that he’s making offers to other girls, it feels so petty that I lose interest. I’ve said this before, but I think there’s a kind of calm affection you can offer precisely because you’ve lost feelings for someone. After finding out that my papa was making offers to other girls, I actually became better at “pretending to love him.” As a result, my papa likes me even more, so I’ve decided that this is good enough.

I’m Fuu, a column writer. So there really are female members who get seriously emotionally attached. I’ve never encountered one myself. I’m kind of envious, but having them look through your messages—is she secretly checking his phone? Or spotting you around town—isn’t the chance of randomly running into each other practically astronomical? It feels a little stalkerish and scary, so personally, I’m more comfortable with the level of distance I have with my current favorites. The PJ has a boyfriend and other papas. Fuu is married and also seeing other PJs. When we’re together, it feels completely like being a couple, and the intimate side is satisfying too. When we’re apart, we don’t interfere with each other’s lives. Fuu hardly ever messages—just enough to arrange when we’ll meet. Occasionally, I’ll check that they’re okay after heavy rain, an earthquake, or something like that. Everyone has their own preferred distance, but Fuu seems to feel most comfortable with the way things are with the girls I’m seeing now. Rather than trying to keep things from cooling off, this kind of distance lets things last naturally—three years, a year, and so on. Maybe you could also relax a little and try keeping things casual? When you’re seeing just one person, you get fixated on them and can’t stop thinking about them. But if you date several people, you won’t worry as much. You get twice the fun and twice the money, too.

I’m Meg, one of the female members. I totally get it… I’d probably lose interest the moment I found out, too. But being jealous of someone you don’t even know is exhausting, too. In the end, I try to remind myself that the fact we’re still together is proof enough.

I’m Date◎Yume, a male member. Since relationships through a dating club involve money, they can be rather complicated. There are all kinds of male members, so I think it’s best to either keep seeing several people while looking for someone interested in a genuine relationship, or consult with the club as you search for the right person.

This is Mac, a male member. That’s not romantic feelings—it’s just jealousy. Since it’s a habit, you can overcome it. Besides, if you really like someone, you’ll like them regardless of whether there are other women in the picture.

I’m Kazu, a male member. I think most women are able to maintain clear boundaries when it comes to compensated dating. If you can only date someone when there are romantic feelings involved, it might be a good idea to mention that in your profile or comments. Apparently, there are men who want a serious, committed relationship with a woman.