I have a question about physical compatibility. (I’m a male member.)
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From a man’s perspective, I feel that compatibility with a woman ultimately comes down to “how sensual she is.” In other words, when you meet a sensual woman, she may simply make you mistake that for being physically compatible—but even so, it feels good as a man, so perhaps you end up thinking, “We’re compatible.”
First, a question for the male respondents: What makes you feel, “This woman and I are probably physically compatible”?
From here on, my questions are for the female respondents.
Suppose you meet a papa (a male supporter) who offers a decent allowance, is gentlemanly, and makes you think, “I might actually like him as a man.” I imagine you might worry about whether you’ll be physically compatible with him. When do you find yourself thinking, “We’re sure to be compatible”?
The reason I’m asking is that I recently met a woman through the club who, after we were intimate, shyly looked away and asked, “How was my body?”
It made me think, “Maybe she actually likes me.”
Of course, I may be misreading the situation. But I also really like her, so... I stopped typing there. If I write any more, I feel like the female respondents will come after me, so I’ll leave it at that.
I’m scared～
But I’d genuinely like to know about the woman’s side of things too—the anxiety of wondering, “What did he think of my body?”
I’m Aya, a female member.
Personally, I don’t worry too much about whether I’m compatible with a papa. By the time I go to his place, we’ve already gotten pretty close, so his reaction is always positive—in other words, just as the questioner said, I become more sensual too.
Saying something like, “What did you think of my body?” makes me feel that he likes you, but still sees you as a customer. That’s not necessarily a bad thing, but it’s still too soon to tell whether this can develop into a genuinely deeper relationship.
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I’m Flagmaker, a columnist.
I see sex as a form of communication.
When the sex is good, it’s actually pretty common for a woman to start opening up about something heavy and burst into tears during the pillow talk afterward.
That’s why I don’t think you need to separate physical compatibility from personality compatibility. Besides, your physical chemistry ultimately depends a lot on your condition at the time.
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I’m Fuu, a columnist.
As for compatibility from the man’s perspective: in my case, it’s a little different. Rather than someone who’s blatantly very sexual, I prefer a more subtle, understated sensuality. Even if it’s partly an act, I like women who show a sense of shyness. Other important factors are a defined waist, tightness, and the angle at which penetration feels good. When the physical compatibility is right, I want to continue seeing her. Whether she’s comfortable with—or even enjoys—the rear position is also important.
As for compatibility from the woman’s perspective: when it feels good, I repeatedly say things like, “That feels really good,” and finish by saying, “That was amazing. Thank you.” So I may be fairly easy to read. On the other hand, I find it difficult to tell from a woman’s reactions whether she genuinely feels good, is pretending, or is in pain. I assume things are okay as long as she continues seeing me, but when she furrows her brow and I can’t tell whether she’s enjoying it or hurting, I ask, “Does it hurt?” I’m glad when she says, “No, it doesn’t—it feels good,” but then I wonder whether that might also be an act, so I make sure to watch her closely.
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To me, it’s not about whether someone’s sexy or not. If, when we touch or things go further, they somehow feel unbelievably good and keep coming back to see me, I think they’re just being affectionate.
Anyone can act sexy if you’re paying them. Don’t get the wrong idea.
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> When do you feel, “We must have great chemistry”?
The people I’m most compatible with time it so that they climax a few to a dozen seconds after they see me reaching my peak.
Someone who says, “As soon as I put it in, it feels so good that I finish right away” may be having a great time with their partner, but from my perspective, it leaves me thinking, “Really?”
I don’t think I’d ask someone I genuinely liked, “How was my body?” But judging from the way that woman asked and her gestures, she didn’t seem to have a bad impression.
Marika
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> From a man’s perspective, I feel that compatibility with a woman ultimately comes down to whether she’s sexually appealing. In other words, perhaps being with a sexually appealing woman simply makes him mistake it for great chemistry—and even so, it makes him happy as a man, so he ends up thinking, “We’re compatible.”
I really think that’s exactly right.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I feel that being compatible means being able to help each other reach climax easily. Even if someone is sexually adventurous, people have all kinds of preferences and kinks, and unless those align, I don’t think you can really call it good compatibility.
This overlaps with what Mac said, but I think it’s important to say when something feels good while you’re having sex. If she has to ask afterward, that feels a little late... I think it’s perfectly normal for a woman to care about whether the man enjoyed himself.
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I’m a male member who goes by Paper Airplane.
> My question for the male respondents is: What makes you feel that “this woman is probably going to be sexually compatible with me”?
At a club, you can tell on the first day when you have good physical chemistry. When you’re compatible, you can naturally have ideal sex and reach climax without any effort or ingenuity. I’d say the rate of truly good compatibility is around 4%. Poor compatibility is about 15%, while the rest fall somewhere in between.
With people I’ve married or been engaged to, the rate of good compatibility was about 20%. Even if the sex isn’t perfectly compatible with a romantic partner, I don’t feel dissatisfied. Sex filled with love feels good.
I think you simply haven’t established your own standards yet. Those standards should ideally be in place before joining a club. Normally, they’re formed through experience.
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I’m Meg, a female member.
I suppose the question is whether he continues to see me.
I’ve climaxed several times, but my papa doesn’t go all the way… I’ve asked him before if that was really okay and whether I was enough for him.
He told me that he doesn’t necessarily want to go all the way—he simply enjoys watching me feel good.
That was the moment my anxiety turned into reassurance.
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