How do you come to terms with the fact that women won’t be interested in you unless you pay them?
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I’ve tried not to think about it too much, but whenever I see young couples walking down the street hand in hand, I get so consumed by jealousy and anger. I find myself thinking, “I pay every time I go out for a meal or have sex, while that guy gets to do it all for free.”
I’ve worked desperately hard, earned money, and spent years on dating clubs so I could enjoy dates and sex with beautiful women. But I’ve started to realize that some things can’t be bought with money, and I’m no longer able to fool myself.
I’m Flag Maker, a columnist.
As a kind of rehab, it might be good to occasionally enjoy some time with women outside the club. You’ll usually end up getting hurt, which will make you appreciate relationships through the club with an allowance involved.
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I’m Fuu, a column writer.
I’m not as pessimistic as the person asking the question. The way you wrote it sounds kind of girly. Maybe you just wanted to say that first line.
I’m happy and satisfied now, being able to use money to spend time with the kind of high-caliber young women I’m attracted to and be intimate with them. It’s my reward for all the hard work I’ve put into my career.
When I was young, I wasn’t popular, and it was the bubble era. For people of my generation, money was necessary to date or be intimate with high-caliber women（笑）. But I didn’t have any money back then, and it’s true that when I was young, I was jealous of the handsome guys my age who were popular even without money.
Now that I have money on my side, I see young couples these days and think, “So that’s the level of girlfriend you can get with that handsome face? My favorites are on a whole different level.” I can’t help doing a little fist pump inside（笑）. I’m nothing but grateful to the women who spend time with me.
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I’m Chikuwa, a male member.
I imagine Universe has quite a few married members, and I think more people join because they want to have fun without any messy strings attached than because women don’t find them attractive.
It’s not like I can’t get attention without money, either. Of course, it would be difficult to win over a Platinum- or Black-level woman, but I can still probably manage with Gold- or Standard-level women.
And people who really aren’t popular with women probably get rejected by women even when they go on dates through Universe. I’m surprised you can enjoy being active on Universe while carrying around that much resentment. Are you hiding it well?
Why not quit Universe and put all your effort into finding a partner—or whatever? No matter how long you stay on Universe, that resentment will only keep growing. If you found a girlfriend or wife—even if she wasn’t conventionally attractive—and experienced some happiness, your troubles might just disappear. Good luck.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Aging is something that comes to everyone equally.
As we grow older, we gain many things, but we also lose plenty along the way. That’s simply how life is, so I don’t understand feeling envious or jealous of others.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
> I’ve spent many years on dating clubs, but I’ve come to realize that some things can’t be bought with money, and I’m no longer able to deceive myself.
I think that part is true. Once you get hooked on a club, it becomes incredibly appealing—and at the same time, far too easy to make things happen—so it can become difficult to break away.
I think it would be better to enjoy meeting people naturally, without money involved, until you’ve had your fill of it. At the same time, if you’re not too advanced in age yet, I don’t think it’s too late to give it a try now.
Should you try? Give up? Compromise?
I think only you can truly know what you’re capable of.
By the way:
> The reality that I’m a man women won’t give the time of day to unless I pay them.
I’ve never felt that way about myself—not yet, anyway. Probably not for another seven or eight years…
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I’m Aya, a female member.
That’s sad. Maybe you weren’t popular even when you were a student?
But even a papa who was popular in his younger days gets ignored by women once he reaches his 50s if he doesn’t have money. My papa said something similar.
So I think aging is the great equalizer. How someone responds to this change—which comes to everyone—reveals their true character.
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