The female member I’m currently seeing (we’ve met about 10 times) is beautiful and happy to join me for drinks, so she’s wonderful in every way, but during S〇X she doesn’t seem to enjoy it much? (She can’t climax either internally or externally). She says it feels good, but it doesn’t show in her reactions, so I’m not sure if she really means it. I’ve been with several other women, and with all of them it was obvious from their reactions—shaking, vocalizing, and so on. (There was one who was completely passive, though.) My question is: how can I make her more sensitive?

This is Mizukami from the Tokyo branch. “Self-exploration” “An adventurous curiosity” If you’re going to make it happen, I feel like those are the most important feelings. Someone who’s naturally curious may also find themselves exploring their own body, wondering, “Just how good can this get?” However, I don’t think it’s easy to make it happen simply by saying, “Explore yourself before we meet again.” That’s because the other person’s body and feelings aren’t necessarily ready to follow along. You need to patiently and repeatedly show her, “This is what feels good.” As the other respondent mentioned, I feel that the most important thing is still to focus on pleasing the woman first.

Mamiya from Universe Club Tokyo here. I recently read an interesting book and wanted to share it: *The Clitoris Revolution: Learning How to Live as “Me” from Gender-Progressive France* → Available on Amazon. It challenges the widespread notion that having an orgasm through penetration is the ultimate goal. Women struggle with this too, wondering, “Is there something wrong with me because I can’t orgasm that way…?” Meanwhile, many men also end up worrying about sex because of the desire to feel, “I’d be thrilled if she came because of my penis!” The women you’ve been with may simply have been exceptional, but I believe any woman can become an actress. If she’s comfortable with putting on an act, that may be fine too, but I think it’s perfectly okay to take an honest approach. Rather than expecting too much, I think it would be better for both of you to continue your current relationship—and if you want to “do yoga,” perhaps find someone else to fulfill that need, so neither of you gets hurt.

I’m Kazu, a male member. I think the level of difficulty varies greatly depending on the woman’s personality and age. I remember Mac once writing something along the lines of, “By their late twenties, women tend to draw a line when it comes to sex and decide how far they’re willing to go.” I thought that made a lot of sense. Whether a woman can enjoy sex seems to depend largely on her inner feelings. It’s not something a man she’s dating can easily change, especially when she’s a mature adult. In fact, attempts to change her usually just annoy her and make her dislike you. Most of the women I make offers to are over 25, so if a woman doesn’t respond well during sex, I don’t go on dates with her again. If it’s possible at all, I imagine it would be with a young, open-minded woman, or one who genuinely wants to learn how to climax. With someone like that, repeatedly taking the time to carefully explore and stimulate her physical and emotional sources of pleasure might eventually make her more sensitive. I believe you should put your own climax second and focus entirely on pleasuring the woman.