How much time do you spend on foreplay? And how long would women like it to last? I’ve heard that even women with little experience can get very aroused with slow sex, but because of my age, if things take too long, I start to feel rushed in various ways… The woman I’ve arranged to meet this time seems to have little experience, so I’d appreciate any advice on what I can do and how much time women generally hope to spend on it. Thank you.

I’m Basil, a male member. It depends on my partner, my mood at the time, and how much time I have. Generally, I take things slowly and savor the experience with girls who have little experience, those I’ve only recently started seeing, and those I click with. On the other hand, when I’m tired or starting to lose interest in someone, I tend to keep things short—almost like amateur escorting, where all that matters is that I enjoy myself.

I’m Tetsu, a male member. There aren’t really any set rules. Sometimes I just check that she’s aroused, while other times I take my time pleasuring her for an hour or more. It really depends on what the woman wants. If slow sex is difficult for you, finding someone else may be one option. If she enjoys taking her time, you probably won’t feel fully satisfied. Even if you continue an adult relationship (intimate) with someone you’re not physically compatible with, it may not be enjoyable.

I’m Hikōki, a male member wandering around in search of—no, I mean, someone who likes Pavlov’s vagina. The better the chemistry, the shorter it is; when the chemistry isn’t great, it ends up taking longer. With the one woman I have the best chemistry with, I even enjoy skipping foreplay, since I’ve managed to get her to react almost like Pavlov’s dog. In that case, foreplay takes zero minutes—or, more accurately, anything I do counts as enough foreplay. That said, she’s the only one I skip foreplay with, and I sometimes keep going until she’s writhing around. That only happens when the chemistry is especially good. When someone’s responses don’t match my pattern, there are times when I’m left thinking, “Huh? What’s going on?” because she’s completely unresponsive—or putting on an exaggerated act. When that happens, I just move things along. I can usually tell within the first three seconds to one minute whether we have chemistry. If she suddenly starts moaning loudly as soon as I begin caressing her, suddenly starts writhing around, or suddenly kisses me passionately, it can be such an obviously flawless—or rather, terrible—performance that I lose interest before chemistry even becomes a question. A natural flow and natural reactions are best. It seems ideal to figure out the chemistry early and settle into the best pattern within a reasonable amount of time.

I’m Kazu, a male member, and I think older men should be more considerate. What are you going to do with that information? (lol) Sometimes I’ll spend about 30 minutes going down on her, make her squirt three times, and then bring her to orgasm. Other times, like today, it’s over quickly: she gave me a blowjob, and I went straight to penetration—zero foreplay. I have moods too, and so do women. Even with the same woman, sometimes it takes 30 minutes of oral to get her there, while other times five minutes is enough. The key is to carefully observe how she’s responding.