I’m Kazu, the male member who asked the question.
Thank you all for your replies.
I don’t necessarily have to finish either, but I felt bad for the woman if I didn’t. You’re right—if I can just let go of that concern, it’s not really a problem.
Mac seemed to receive oral sex quite frequently, so I assumed he must be finishing often as well. But as you said, there’s no rule that says you have to finish just because you received oral sex. Honestly, even in my twenties, there’s no way I could finish three times a day—morning, noon, and night—for several days in a row（笑）
At the moment, I can still get hard even on consecutive days, but after getting hard, I lose it when I try to move on to penetration, which I’m not personally interested in. I felt bad about that toward the woman, but your comments helped me realize that if I can simply accept it, there’s really no problem.
By the way, in my case, doping causes headaches, so I tried ICI instead. That doesn’t give me a headache.
For the time being, I’m going to stop worrying and keep meeting them even if the encounters are back-to-back, focusing on making my partner writhe with pleasure. If I can use the increased pace to build up my stamina along the way, I’ll consider that a bonus.
Thank you all for giving me the courage—and the perspective—to look at this differently.
I’m Basil, a male member.
Until six months ago, once a week was basically enough for me. But since COVID, I got carried away with online papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and spread myself too thin.
For the past few months, twice a week has become the norm, and I see everyone about once a month. The amount I give hasn’t changed from when I was going once a week, and I’ve been told several times, “You really gave a lot.”
I’ve managed a second round with the same partner and even consecutive encounters with different partners—something I hadn’t done in decades—without any trouble. I am using a little doping, but even in my late fifties, I’ve bounced back. It feels like, “Hey, I can still do this.”
Last night, I tried to initiate things with my wife, only to be kicked and told, “Get that lump of flesh away from me!” This is Paper Airplane, a male member.
I’m an idiot of a middle-aged guy who has even experienced four arranged dates in one day (two of them were C-type, apparently).
Since these are new offers, I want to be fully prepared—leaving three or four days in between…
But since they’re new, I also want to see them whenever our schedules line up, even on consecutive days…
And then I have to fit in a girl I haven’t seen in a while, too…
It’s a difficult call.
Until fairly recently, I thought the longer I waited—three, four, or five days—the better. But apparently that isn’t always the case. Some girls are perfectly fine with consecutive days… What on earth is going on with the male body? Lately, I’ve been getting confused about it all over again.
For the past twenty years or so, I’ve never managed two rounds within the same time period—and sometimes I couldn’t even manage one. Yet, for some reason, I’ve met girls with whom two rounds are no problem at all, and even the next day is no problem. It never ceases to amaze me.
On the other hand, with the girl I feel the deepest connection with—the one I’m genuinely in love with and cherish—we can get all the way to the climax, reaching what feels almost like the peak, but when I tell my “little man,” “Come on, let’s go,” he just won’t cooperate, and I miss the finish…
I still can’t bring myself to pretend I finished. I did get to enjoy that intense feeling for quite a while because I couldn’t finish, so I suppose all I can do is bask in the afterglow and tell myself it wasn’t so bad. I can only explain to her that I really did feel it, even though I couldn’t quite get there…
So, regarding the question of how to manage consecutive days:
For me, I can do it with girls who give me confidence, but even after waiting three days, I can’t with girls who don’t… Sadly, that’s just how it is.
With a new girl on our very first day, I can manage consecutive days surprisingly often.
If I really want to finish, I can be brought around with her mouth and hands, then control things and proceed. But that would feel like merely getting it over with—a very strong sense of just dealing with the aftermath—so I try not to do that whenever possible. Instead, I accept the sense of defeat and look forward to redeeming myself next time.
There was a period when new offers, new girls, and ongoing arrangements all overlapped, and my schedule became unreasonable. These days, though, whether it’s a hotel date or dinner only, I limit myself to girls with whom we can both relax and have a good time, whether we’re together briefly or for a long while.
That lets me keep a manageable schedule. When the dates pile up, dinner only is perfectly fine, and whether we go to a hotel depends on how I’m feeling that day. (It’s actually pretty exciting—you know, when you can’t hold back and end up going to the hotel…)
I think Kazu-san once wrote something that sounded almost like jealousy, wondering whether older men were satisfying women better when he was younger.
As you get older, sex naturally becomes more about your partner. It’s not just about finishing or feeling good yourself—you want to make the woman feel so intensely that she writhes around. When you’re young, you’ve already gone straight to penetration and started going at it by then, haven’t you? And you can keep going, too…
As the focus continues to shift further away from my own finish, things seem to grow deeper and more interesting in their own way. I’m looking forward to discovering where that leads.
Universe Tokyo, Mamiya here.
I do get the impression that people who train from early morning, are extremely careful about their diets—almost vegan-level—and are generally very health-conscious tend to have stronger sex drives.
Of course, there are probably plenty of people who are truly exceptional by comparison, but I think it’s fine to go at your own pace.
Papa-katsu women who see sex as something they endure in exchange for compensation usually don’t want a second round. Eventually, the time comes when you have to accept things as a transactional relationship, so you need to be aware of that.
Not being able to perform as a man doesn’t mean it’s the end. How about enjoying your later years with a cuddle buddy instead?
