I’m the woman who asked about telling someone about my sugar-dating activities (https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/3692).

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer. I believe everyone gets better at gauging distance and communicating with others by making mistakes and saying the wrong thing in relationships, then reflecting on them again and again. People who can recognize their mistakes can grow—and in some cases, even make up for past mistakes. Even now, I’ll suddenly remember something insensitive I said to a woman in the past, a failed attempt to approach someone, or how a woman I was close to suddenly came to hate me. Sometimes it’s enough to make me sigh while I’m walking down the street ^^; There’s nothing I can do to undo those things, but because I occasionally remember them, I’m able to avoid repeating the same mistakes and build better relationships with other people. That’s how I convince myself, but honestly, I understand how you feel. I’m still carrying those memories with me too. Writing this just made me remember another one（泣）

I’m Meg, one of the female members. Thank you (*^^*) I’m glad if I was able to help you, even just a little. > I want to apologize right away and say, “I’m sorry for always saying such weird things. Please be friends with me again.” Please, go ahead and honestly tell them how you feel. I have a feeling that, with time, they may come to accept you—even if things don’t go back to exactly how they were before. P.S. To all the other respondents: I’m taking everyone down with me～♪ Let’s make sure we take this secret to the grave, okay? Heh-heh-heh (lol) ← In the style of Kaiketsu Zorori.

I’m Date◎Yume, a male member. What’s done is done. Let’s learn from this and use it going forward… (lol) P.S. Mac, Kamihikōki, Meg, and everyone else, thank you. As expected, you came through. I’ve never had an experience like that myself… (tears) When something like this happens, let’s lend a hand with everyone’s help. If anyone is having trouble, let’s do what we can. Thanks in advance. Wait! I said “as expected,” but have you all really been dealing with nothing but situations like that up until now? (lol)

I’m a male member who goes by Paper Airplane. When I first heard about the club from the woman I mentioned in my previous answer, I was extremely confused because I had always thought of it as a completely unfamiliar world—something I had no connection to and couldn’t even imagine. (These days, I’m filled with gratitude for how wonderful the club is, so I no longer have those misconceptions or prejudices.) But the woman in front of me was just an entirely ordinary, lovely woman I had met before, so I couldn’t help thinking: “Wait, really? What does that mean?” I simply couldn’t process it. I assumed she would no longer have any reason to meet me and would probably stop contacting me, so I stopped reaching out to her myself. That’s what I thought, but after some time, she contacted me again. We met, and I began hearing about various things in her life. Perhaps because she was telling me things she wouldn’t tell anyone else, I felt that she had become more comfortable opening up to me about her upbringing and the things she was dealing with now. She seemed able to talk freely, without having to worry about how I would react, and felt more at ease around me. I didn’t mind that at all. Now we have a deeper relationship. Unlike before, I still have no intention of becoming physically intimate with her, but she has become a special person to me, and I have become an even more special person to her. We have a completely casual relationship in which neither of us has to be overly careful around the other. I think the man’s attitude will be completely different depending on whether your relationship is with a club member or with someone you met normally. It will also depend on whether, even if he is a club member, he has become a special, deeply affectionate partner whom you truly feel comfortable confiding in. If you are only seeing him as a club member, talking about it will probably help you open up to him. If you ask him various things about club members and related matters, he won’t take it badly, and I think he will even be willing to listen to you about your life, including those topics. Even then, avoid any mention of physical intimacy altogether and speak as though there is no physical relationship. This applies even if, using Univa’s classifications, you would be considered Type C or Type D, and even if you talk about staying overnight or traveling together. If the relationship has become one in which you genuinely trust him and feel comfortable confiding in him, he probably won’t feel good about it. In that case, I don’t think the relationship can—or necessarily needs to—be repaired. In the first place, if that were the kind of relationship you had, you probably wouldn’t have told him about it. So if the timing feels right, perhaps you could try talking to him about it. > “I’m sorry for talking about nothing but weird things. Please be close with me again.” If the man you spoke to is the person asking about, I think you can talk to him naturally about your worries and frustrations as usual, without dwelling on it too much. If you hold back or apologize more than necessary, he may feel even more distant, as though that isn’t the kind of relationship you have. P.S. Thank you Hearing about your worries helped me understand more deeply how much it can mean when a woman opens up to someone. Thank you.

I’m Basil, a male member. How do you feel about this male friend? I’m sure he’s interested in you as a woman. When men are young, most of them secretly believe that genuine friendship between men and women doesn’t exist. I think he’s being distant because he felt you were no longer interested in him. So why not tell him, “I’ve thought things over, and I’ve decided to end my relationship with my lover. Please help me forget him,” and see how he reacts? Then do your best to aim for something more than friends with benefits, but less than a romantic relationship. You’ll become closer than ever. Of course, you’ll need nerves of steel so neither he nor your husband finds out. Sorry if this comes across as making light of your situation.