I’m a 25-year-old female member. I receive offers from men who are roughly twice my age, and many of them have daughters. Their daughters are usually around 10, but some have daughters about my age. Some men have even told me they don’t make offers to women younger than their daughters.
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My question is, when men have daughters like this, can they really see a woman who’s around their daughter’s age as a woman rather than as a child? I can tell that they see me as a woman, but I find this difficult to understand.
Also, if their own daughters were registered with a club like this, would these men be able to accept it?
My own parents, of course, don’t know. I grew up feeling very loved by them, and I imagine that if they found out, they would either faint or be so shocked that they’d lose their minds.
I really enjoy doing this, but sometimes I feel sorry that I’m this kind of daughter.
I’m Seattle, a male member.
I have a 17-year-old daughter. Since we have different genes, I see her as a completely separate person, so it doesn’t really bother me.
If my daughter were involved with Universe in the future, I’d want her to save rather than spend all her money, but I probably wouldn’t try to stop her. If she’s my daughter, I’d think her future was secure anyway, but I might wonder whether she needs the money right now. I might ask her about it indirectly.
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I’m Saito, the column writer ♪
If you only think about dating clubs, you may have various opinions, but the darkness in the world runs much deeper than that.
Women working in the sex industry without telling their parents
Some entertainers who sell their bodies to get work
Women who have their debts piled up and then disappear into the shadows
Women who are kept addicted to drugs
As BB7 says, you may find yourself reflecting on what kind of education and upbringing led to this, but you might also think that papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is relatively mild…
In wartime, women are bought and sold like objects.
Rather than worrying about “what if that happens…,” perhaps we should be grateful for the circumstances we live in now.
Sorry for putting it so bluntly.
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I’m a BB7 male member.
I have a daughter who’s around 20 as well, and I just got back from a drive with her.
Some people might find it creepy, but my daughter and I are very close. We go shopping, have meals together, and go out just the two of us all the time. Sometimes I wonder if people think I’m doing papa-katsu, but this is the real father-daughter version.
Anyway, if my own daughter were a member of a dating club, I’d have all sorts of thoughts. Was my love as a father lacking? Does she really want the money that badly? Was she simply curious? I’d wonder about a lot of things, but she has her own life, so I’d pretend not to know.
Besides, I’m involved with the club myself, so there’s no way I could say anything. Even as parent and child, we’re separate individuals. It isn’t against the law, so I’d leave it up to her judgment and responsibility.
Even when I offer to meet girls around my daughter’s age, I just think, “I guess she must have been like that when she was around kindergarten age,” and don’t really feel anything in particular.
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I’m Meg, a female member.
My partner may also see me as someone halfway between a daughter and a granddaughter, like Date◎Yume’s partner perhaps.
But I feel that he loves me as someone halfway between a wife and a daughter.
Like Date◎Yume’s partner (or so I hope!), he treats me incredibly well. When he keeps saying, “You’re so cute!” I almost start to believe I really am, so I have to tell myself, “Get a grip and come back to reality!”
His eldest daughter is 18. If she joined the club, I’d think, “Wow, she’s got some nerve!” At times like this, I find myself grateful that female members can’t view the female members’ page.
P.S.
Since Flag Maker is such a devoted father, I’m sure he’d be shocked if that happened (^_^;)
Sleeping so peacefully in the child seat… So cute♪
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
I actually have a daughter, so I’ve imagined something like what you described. If I ever came across my own daughter in the future, I’d be devastated.
We just got back from the zoo, and she’s sleeping peacefully in her child seat next to me.
So for now, I’m thinking it’s about time I started winding down this kind of activity.
“For now,” though, lol.
Lately, most of the offers I’ve been getting have been from people around my age.
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
> I can tell that you see me as a woman, but that’s exactly what I find so puzzling.
I understand the point you’re raising very well. However, whenever I actually consider making an offer to someone, for some reason, my attention keeps shifting toward younger and younger women. As a result, I end up making offers to women who are very young.
I don’t have a daughter, but when I think about my own age, I can’t really explain to myself why I’m making offers to someone who falls somewhere between the age of a daughter and a granddaughter. All I can say is that I’m troubled by this instinct of mine.
Still, this is a dating club, and both sides end up saying “OK!”, which is part of what makes it so interesting.
What’s more, even though they occupy that space between a daughter and a granddaughter, I care for them very deeply, almost as I would for a daughter. I’ve never thought of them as my own daughter, but if someone asked me to imagine that, I’m still not in a position where I can even consider it.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
If I found out my daughter was registered, I’d have no choice but to keep it a secret between us, so I’d stay quiet.
I don’t think her father would say anything either if he was involved in this kind of activity himself.
If this were a hostess club or men’s esthetic salon, someone from the neighborhood might show up, recognize her, and she might suddenly quit after canceling at the last minute. But with a dating club, there’s no way a man’s secret—or a father’s—can get out.
I think the biggest appeal of these clubs is that you can meet women between 18 and 21.
So I hope you’ll forgive us for men instinctively gathering around them when they’re at their peak.
P.S. Recently, an 18-year-old new college student who had just started at my workplace was there. I gave her a 100-yen coin for juice as a little treat. She took it in her hand and asked, “What’s this?” Then, “Huh? What do you mean?” She was completely confused until I explained. Then she went, “Yay!” and “Woohoo!” while making a tiny celebratory gesture with her hands, absolutely delighted.
You only get a reaction like that once, don’t you?
P.P.S. Regarding the beautiful woman I met through the club, I plan to keep quiet for the rest of my life—not only about the fact that I joined Universe, but also about the fact that I know she was registered there. I’ve never opened her profile, and I’ve never looked at her comments or photos.
If I discovered my daughter on Universe, would I do the same thing? I honestly don’t know. I might not be confident that I could.
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