I’m date◎yume, a male member.
I used to choose one woman from the many available, but after experiencing things like:
- Repeatedly having my offers turned down,
- Being told something completely unreasonable two or three days after our first meeting,
- Repeated suspicions of misrepresenting their relationship type,
I changed my approach last May. Now I shortlist around ten women and have the club select the one they feel would be the best match for me.
One person is more than enough, and things have been going well between us.
I’m a male member, “Paper Airplane.”
Assuming you’re looking for a genuine, one-person-only connection:
C-type women generally continue seeing you without formally ending things, saying, “You’re the only one,” while not worrying too much about exclusivity. If they become busy with other people, you’ll naturally stop seeing each other.
With A- and B-type women, the closer you become, the more often you’ll message and meet, so I think things will gradually narrow down to two people, or perhaps just one. If she also wants to focus on one person, you’ll end up exchanging LINE messages every day—and quite a lot of them each day.
I think it’s fine to narrow it down to one person after the woman you’re seeing has withdrawn from the club. (Apparently, withdrawing can be done instantly.)
Some women continue posting new comments or updating their schedules while saying they’re seeing only one person. So while they’re still registered, I think it’s best to assume they’re waiting for offers from other men or going on dates with them as well.
I’m Column Writer’s Adventure Merchant.
When I first started using a dating club, I was simply having fun meeting all kinds of women. I made lots of offers, and eventually had around six women I met once a month.
But meeting only once a month doesn’t really allow a relationship to deepen all that much. So I narrowed it down to about three women I personally felt I wanted to build a deeper relationship with, and the other three naturally faded out.
I continued seeing the remaining three, and eventually all three became monthly arrangements.
I’m not sure whether it was because we moved to monthly arrangements, but various things started happening: we met less often, their replies became slower, and some asked for their allowance in advance. Even so, there was one woman I still wanted to stay connected with, so in the end, I continued seeing only her.
For the other two whose monthly arrangements I ended, I gave them some vague reason involving work or my personal life and told them we wouldn’t be able to meet anymore.
I was enjoying my relationship with that one woman, but eventually even with her, I reached the point of thinking, “Ah… I guess this isn’t going to work after all. ( ﾉД`）” So we parted ways.
Now I’m starting over and looking again from scratch. For the time being, I’m thinking of meeting about five women this month and next month, then narrowing it down from there.
I guess it’s really difficult to meet someone you could spend the rest of your life with… qq彩票
