I’m Joe, a columnist.
There have already been plenty of good answers, so I may just be adding to what’s already been said, but I found your question interesting and wanted to respond.
I really understand how you feel. I dislike the term “pseudo-romance,” so I try not to use it very often. But I have a tendency (?) to write things in my columns like, “I don’t want your body—I want your heart.” I suspect what you’re looking for is essentially the same thing.
Recently, Nana-hime, one of my former favorites, told me, “The pseudo-romance you have in mind is different from the pseudo-romance I have in mind.” That really made me stop and think. Obviously, the meaning of “pseudo-romance” differs from person to person, but once you turn it into a set phrase, misunderstandings are bound to arise.
This may seem completely out of the blue, but a business owner I greatly admire always tells me, “Think about things using native Japanese words.” His favorite example is “curry rice” becoming “rice with spicy soup poured over it.” The currently popular term “pseudo-romance” isn’t a native Japanese expression either. Rephrasing it in your own words might even change how you view the women registered at the club.
If I may be so presumptuous, let me share the definition of “pseudo-romance” from Joe’s dictionary:
“A relationship with a woman who isn’t a picky eater, enjoys all kinds of food and drinks, takes an interest in art and can enjoy it with you—and who discreetly shows you the panties she’s wearing while you’re in the taxi.”
Nana-hime! I’m talking about you! *sobs*
Sorry that this still doesn’t really answer your question.
*Kida-san, am I being selfish?*
Thank you for your question.
Kida, our representative, will be answering.
This is another thought-provoking question.
“Simulated romance over sex.”
Really～～～～？？
The moment you’re alone together, you don’t start saying things like, “Please, just let me smell your feet,” do you?
Just kidding. Sorry.
I personally consider simulated romance to include sex, so I’ll answer on the assumption that:
Sex only → there are plenty
Someone who can have sex with you and also make you feel like you’re in a relationship → very few
First of all, how do you define simulated romance?
I imagine that, for women, simulated romance probably means pretending to be in love with an older gentleman.
And that may not be entirely wrong.
When I asked Google, the top featured snippet said:
“Simulated romance, as the name suggests, is not genuine romantic love. It refers to acts in which someone receives money to satisfy another person’s sexual desires without it being prostitution, as well as developing romantic feelings virtually without ever meeting in person. 11/04/2010.”
That answer was so definitive there was practically nothing left to say.
For men, if a woman who can provide simulated romance is someone who makes them think:
“Wait, does she really like me? Seriously? No, no, this is too much. I’m more than 20 years older than her. Wow, really? Well then, let’s see… shall I spoil you a little?”
Then, in the broad sense, a woman who genuinely has some feelings for you and a woman who is an incredibly convincing actress are essentially the same thing.
So the statement:
“There are tons of women who can have sex, but very few who can provide simulated romance… It makes me feel lonely.”
Could be rephrased as:
“There are tons of women who can have sex, but very few who can make you feel excited and convince you that you’re in love… It makes me feel lonely.”
And now for my answer:
You’re being selfish.
Our club, as well as our male members—including you—needs to keep changing with the times, with the questioner’s age, and with trends in women’s attitudes.
Women are the most sensitive to changes in society, and they change first.
Then the more adaptable men change along with them.
Some clubs and agencies notice these changes and reflect them in their services.
The clubs and men who can’t keep up will end up complaining, “Things were better in the old days.”
I’m sure you didn’t join the club just so you could complain like that.
This is no time to feel lonely.
Nor is it the time to sit back and wait for women to provide simulated romance.
Let’s keep up with the changes women are making.
After all, we’re the ones receiving happiness from them.
There’s no club as diverse as Universe—full of both gems and rough stones. Let’s work together to hunt for treasure and rejuvenate our own hearts and minds!
