I’ve been a club member for about a year, live outside a major city, and am a Black-tier male member. I have a question about “last-minute cancellations.”
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The club has introduced me to around 30 women.
Thankfully, I’ve never had anyone cancel on me at the last minute for a first date, but once we continue seeing each other, it happens fairly often.
【Ranking of reasons】
1. Feeling unwell
2. A sudden work commitment
3. Family circumstances
4. A prior commitment with a friend (double-booking)
5. Their phone broke
6. They got their schedule wrong
Then I get a message on LINE:
“I’m sorry.” “I’ll make it up to you next time!” “When can we meet again?” …
Right.
I suppose that means the date is low on their list of priorities and they simply don’t feel like coming…
Question 1
What other reasons are there for last-minute cancellations besides those listed above?
Question 2
How can I prevent last-minute cancellations?
I’d appreciate your advice on the above.
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It might be a good idea to look into what’s causing so many last-minute cancellations.
It would be great if one of the women could be honest with you about it…
It’s probably not that they’re just not in the mood—they likely don’t like you.
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I’m BB7, a male member.
When you say you’re “very often” stood up from the second meeting onward, what does that mean in actual numbers? I’m curious about the probability. More than half the time? Around 30%?
By “last-minute cancellation,” do you mean canceling on the day or shortly before the meeting?
As for your questions:
2. Ways to prevent last-minute cancellations: I tell them, “Last-minute cancellations are a problem, so if you can’t make it, please let me know at least the day before.”
Maybe I’ve just been lucky, but whether it was a first meeting or an ongoing arrangement, I’ve never actually had anyone cancel on the day or at the last minute.
If a woman I’m seeing regularly cancels on the day, I won’t continue seeing her unless she’s the kind of person who would at least call me directly to apologize.
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In my 30s, and a new member
Question 2: How to prevent last-minute cancellations
There’s nothing we can do about a woman’s mood, schedule, or physical condition at the time. Unlike women working scheduled shifts at an adult entertainment establishment, women in club arrangements also have the right to say no, so I don’t think cancellations can really be prevented.
Rather, even if a woman cancels at the last minute, I think it’s simply up to the man to decide whether he still wants to continue seeing her. If there are any preventive measures, as U.S.T. mentioned, I think the only options are: 1) increasing the allowance, and 2) becoming more attractive as a man.
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I’m Basil, a male club member.
**Question 1**
I continued seeing the first woman I met after joining the club, but she often canceled at the last minute. Other than No. 5, “my phone broke,” none of these apply. The rest are basically as follows.
I’m hardly ever canceled on by other women. If anything, I’m the one who cancels more often, roughly in this order: 2 → 4 (including double-booking with another woman) → 3 → 1 → 6.
As for my excuses, except when No. 1 is actually true, they’re usually No. 2.
**2. How I prevent it**
I don’t get too invested in any one woman, so I just move on and contact someone else.
Also, when I make plans with someone who frequently cancels at the last minute, I sometimes double-book as insurance and cancel one of them, using work as the reason.
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I’m Seattle, a male member.
**Question 1: Other reasons for last-minute cancellations**
The reasons listed above always cover the top six, and there really aren’t any others.
**Question 2: Ways to prevent last-minute cancellations**
Women can be unpredictable, so I don’t think there’s much you can do to avoid them. As for menstruation, which is listed as number one, there’s nothing anyone can do about that. I end things with women who cancel at the last minute, so apart from menstruation, it hasn’t happened to me.
If someone cancels on me, I go hang out with another friend for dinner only—no intimacy. That’s enjoyable in its own way, too.
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