I’m Saito♪, a column writer.
Life is full of variety, people are all different, and papas come in all kinds too—isn’t that okay?
If momo, Mac, and I had drinks together, I might actually turn out to be such an unbearable person that I’d make myself sick.
You really can’t know what someone’s like as a person until you meet them in real life.
Kida, the representative, would also like to respond.
First of all, Date◎Yume,
thank you for reminding everyone about the rules!
As you pointed out, I’d like to briefly introduce them here as well.
・Be considerate and respectful
→ While I felt there was somewhat less consideration and respect than usual in this discussion, I decided it was not serious enough to warrant removing the post.
・Illegal activities are prohibited
→ I did not find anything in this discussion that could be considered illegal.
・Harassment and bullying
→ Although it contains some criticism, I judged it to fall within the scope of people exchanging opinions.
・Explicit adult descriptions and links
→ I judged it to be within the bounds of common sense.
・Reporting problems
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That is my official response. From here on, I’ll be speaking personally.
I felt this topic deserved a deeper discussion.
Among the information available online and in books, I think there should be more detailed discussion about the pros and cons of giving one’s virginity to a man met through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
Someone might think:
“That sounds terrifying. I’m not doing it.”
And that’s fine.
Someone else might think:
“I don’t care about being a virgin. If I’m going to do it, I might as well get paid well.”
That’s fine too. They’re adults, after all, and can make their own decisions.
However, when information is scarce or biased, people can end up making misguided decisions. That’s why opinions from various perspectives are important.
In that sense, I think Mac-san’s answer was a truly remarkable one that will go down in Japanese history.
I also understand why some people condemn it as “disgusting,” but I believe that falls within the realm of individual feelings and perceptions.
As operators of Universe Club, we can’t avoid topics and questions about sex. A 22-year-old new graduate working as a coordinator cannot necessarily provide sufficient answers in individual consultations.
I believe this site functions in a healthy way as a place where senior members can openly share their unreserved opinions and experiences on these provocative topics.
I’m also grateful to momo for having the courage to answer from a woman’s perspective, and I respect her for it.
So, I hope we can deepen the discussion around the question of whether “Mac-san’s answer and actions were wrong,” rather than engaging in personal attacks. Personal attacks are childish behavior that I hope will not be remembered in Japanese history.
Personally, I completely agree with Mac-san.
In running a dating club, I’ve encountered all kinds of trouble:
“I was given some strange drugs!”
“I was secretly filmed!”
“I nearly died because someone drove drunk!”
“I was kicked out of a room completely naked!”
Compared with incidents like these, consensually offering one’s virginity gives me the feeling of, “What exactly is wrong with that?”
As long as we are instinctively driven to reproduce, we’re all bitches.
I would be glad to see more unvarnished, honest opinions—and experiences—that help people safely enjoy reproductive activity in today’s online society.
This is Mac, a column writer.
I was going to refrain from responding, but the things being said about me were so outrageous that I have to push back a little.
Please don’t throw around words like “rape” and “sex crime” so carelessly. I have nothing to do with anything like that. I’m anonymous and simply trying to answer as honestly as possible.
All kinds of people gather at dating clubs. We operate right on the edge of what does not cross the line into prostitution, which is illegal.
If what I’m doing is rape, then the person asking this question must be the ultimate john. And momo would be a respectable prostitute. Isn’t that right?
I’m single, and I don’t date married people. Dating a married person is adultery and illegal. What about the questioner and momo?
If the questioner is married and is asking this while conveniently ignoring that fact, then honestly, it makes me sick.
Let me say just one thing:
“Don’t laugh at other people’s sex lives.”
There are all kinds of people in this world, and people’s sexual behavior varies too. Something may seem disgusting to you, but that simply means it doesn’t fit your own standards and you don’t understand it. Don’t attack people.
I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
Let me start by answering as someone who considers himself a low-income member of a dating club—and a graduate of a high school that wasn’t exactly known for its high academic standards.
When using the anonymous question box, there are “rules for using the service.”
Under “Rules to Follow When Using the Service,” there are 11 rules, covering everything from “Be considerate and respectful” to “Disclaimer.”
With those rules in mind, as stated at the beginning of the anonymous question box:
To keep the Universe Anonymous Question Box available online as a “community space” where anyone can comfortably ask and answer questions, all users are expected to follow the rules. Let’s work together to make every page of the Universe Anonymous Question Box useful to people who use dating clubs.
