I’m Saito, a columnist♪
I’m a black-tier member, but I only schedule dates on a few days each month. I fill those days up with appointments, planning to wrap each one up within two to three hours.
I never meet anyone more than twice a month.
I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
I’m not in the Black Class, but I wonder whether it might actually benefit women if men don’t include overly specific details in their profiles.
If I wrote something like, “I’d like to meet at least this many times a month,” women might hold back from making an offer, as Rula-san suggested.
In my experience, I haven’t seen many women I made offers to quit or take a break from the club. Even if they did, they might still be active through another dating club or similar service. So I think it’s reasonable to assume they’re receiving offers from someone else. The reason is that “what they can gain differs considerably.”
So, I might see one woman two or three times a month. As for how many other women I see, I imagine the actual number of dates is determined for both men and women by their financial resources, sense of satisfaction, and what they need to gain from the arrangement.
I’m Rula, a male UC member and a member of the new salon.
You’ve probably already seen how many dates I’ve had in another Q&A section, so here I’d like to comment on this point:
> Wouldn’t it be better to state more clearly in women’s profiles whether they prefer single men or are also open to married men, as well as how many dates per month they would like—whether any number is fine, or whether they want to meet at least a certain number of times?
〇 Regarding preferring single men:
I think women should mention it if they feel particularly strongly about it. However, since many married men use dating clubs, stating it too plainly could carry the risk of reducing the number of offers they receive.
〇 Regarding the number of dates:
I don’t recall seeing many profiles that clearly state the desired number of dates per month. However, I fairly often see comments from women or staff saying things like, “My goal is to earn ¥〇〇〇,〇〇〇 per month.”
If I imagine that I were to continue seeing a particular woman, and thought, “It would be ¥〇〇 for dinner only, and ¥〇〇 if things progressed further,” I could calculate the number of monthly dates by dividing her target amount by those figures.
For example, if a woman writes, “My goal is ¥300,000 a month!” and I think, “For her, I’d be comfortable with an allowance of ¥50,000 per meeting,” then we would have to meet six times a month for her to reach that goal.
Since it is generally difficult to meet one woman six times a month, I might end up thinking, “Perhaps I’ll hold off on making an offer.”
Therefore, clearly stating a woman’s monthly income target on her profile—especially if the amount is high—can sometimes work against her. I think both women and Universe Club staff should be cautious about this.
Likewise, if a woman states how often she wants to meet, such as “I’d like to meet at least 〇 times a month,” men may start focusing on the money: “I wonder how much allowance she expects per meeting? If it’s ¥50,000 each time, then 50,000 × 〇 meetings would be…” This could also lead some men to hold off on making an offer.
At dating clubs, the number of meetings directly affects the allowance, so I think the wording needs to be handled carefully.
If you do want to mention it, I think wording like this would work well:
“Rather than seeing a lot of different people, I’d prefer to focus on one person and have a relationship that feels more like dating. If we’re going to see each other as a couple, meeting just once a month would feel a little lonely, so I’d be happy to meet a gentleman who has enough time to see me at least two or three times a month.”
