While continuing my dating activities, I once considered getting divorced, but now I’ve realized how irreplaceable my wife is.

I’m Saito♪, a columnist. I’m with だて◎ゆめ. Whenever things get worse between me and my wife, I also take a break from the dating club.

I’m a male member from Seattle. I got divorced 10 years ago, and I’ve been incredibly free and happy ever since. I have absolutely no regrets. That said, I did have to give up a substantial amount in the property settlement 10 years ago. If both parties agree to terms they’re comfortable with, I think getting divorced is perfectly fine.

I’m BB7, a male member. In the past, I became so infatuated with a woman I was dating—not a woman from the club—that I briefly considered getting divorced. At the time, I was so caught up in her that I couldn’t see her objectively. I was completely blinded by my feelings. I didn’t notice any of her personality flaws; all I could see were her good qualities. But after we broke up, I was able to see her shortcomings more calmly. At the same time, I began to appreciate my wife’s good qualities and feel grateful for her. I realized how foolish I had been to consider divorce. In the first place, I didn’t start going to the club because my relationship with my wife was bad, so I never seriously considered getting divorced. However, if I had started going to the club while things were difficult with my wife, divorce might have crossed my mind. That said, marriage isn’t about romantic feelings like whether you love or dislike someone—it’s firmly rooted in the real world. I think it’s completely different from the unrealistic world of club activities. Club activities themselves exist in an unrealistic world, and I think both men and women often get involved while dreaming based only on the appealing qualities visible on the surface—financial means and status for men, youth and beauty for women. So perhaps a relationship where you enjoy the good parts without stepping into the real-world territory of marriage or divorce offers just the right amount of distance.

I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member. I’ve never considered getting divorced. I look to the dating club for things that aren’t possible in real life. I’m also convinced that women look to dating clubs for things they can’t achieve in their everyday lives.