Isn’t the chemistry between a man and a woman something you can tell instantly from whether your first kiss feels like you’re melting into each other, rather than by thinking it through?
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Even if I think, “She’s beautiful, and our terms work too—great!” things always end up not working out with a woman if the kiss doesn’t click, and it eventually ends without much fuss.
On the other hand, when the kiss is good, the woman gets more into it too, and the terms start to matter less.
That’s why, whenever possible, I negotiate the terms after seeing how the kiss feels.
If the kiss is good, she’ll usually give me a break on the terms; if it isn’t, I take it as a sign and end things there.
I’d love to hear what factors you use to make your judgment, too.
I’m Saito♪, a column writer.
After reading Nonta’s answer, I thought, “Oh yeah, there’s also scent.”
I have certain scents I really like.
No matter how wonderful someone is, if their scent doesn’t work for me, it’s a complete deal-breaker.
I do like kissing.
That said, I’m not comfortable with someone coming on too strong.
A few light French-style kisses are more than enough.
But when saying goodbye, I’ll do it anywhere—even outside. LOL
It doesn’t affect the allowance. LOL
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I’m BB7, a papa-katsu member in my late 40s.
When I share my first hug and first kiss with a woman, I sometimes feel as though our energies are melting together—as if we’d been seeing each other for a long time already. I guess you could say we’re a perfect physical match.
Relationships like that often last a long time.
That said, even when my first impression is, “Hmm, maybe not,” we can sometimes grow closer and start to click after meeting a few more times, so it’s hard to say for sure.
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I’m Rula, a male UC member and a member of the new salon.
Come to think of it, kissing may indeed be a pretty important factor.
At the moment, I’m seeing one woman on a monthly arrangement, and, well… the chemistry when we kiss is absolutely amazing.
But it’s not just the kissing. Whether it’s hugging, sleeping next to each other, chatting over dinner, or exchanging messages when we’re apart, I feel that she conveys something more than simply enjoying being with me—something like genuine affection.
Hmm… But now that you mention it, looking back, I don’t think things have ever lasted with women whose kisses didn’t really spark anything for me…
So maybe it really is the kissing?
Sorry this answer doesn’t really answer your question.
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
“Compatibility between a man and a woman” is another difficult question.
In my case, I think I judge it based on the feeling I get from the other person—or rather, the overall impression I pick up from them.
I don’t judge it based on just one thing, such as kissing.
More than anything, I feel that the sincere, pleasant way they engage with me is what matters most.
I think you can sense that in a kiss, a conversation, a meal, having tea, or even intimacy.
That said, I don’t think it has much to do with appearance. I feel that a person’s character plays a much bigger role.
That’s just how it is for me, though. It may not be much help...
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