How should I deal with becoming numb to having sex with beautiful women and no longer feeling excited about it? I had never had any connection with beautiful women before joining a dating club, so I’m really struggling with this now.

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They say beauty gets old after three days, and I agree that once you’ve done what you came to do, the excitement tends to wear off. Especially when it’s just about her looks, I’m ready to say, “I’m good after one time.” Of course, it would be ideal to find a woman who’s beautiful, physically compatible, has the figure you like, and a great personality—but it may not be easy to meet someone who matches you that well. How about making an offer to a beautiful woman—someone like a Type A or Type B who isn’t easy to win over—and taking your time to pursue her? P.S. I also went for beautiful women at first, but as expected, looks alone weren’t enough to keep me excited. In fact, I feel that women whose figures suit my tastes and who I’m physically compatible with are more likely to become long-term partners, and the intimate satisfaction is higher as well. The saying that “you get used to anything in three days” isn’t entirely wrong.

I’m in my 30s and new to the site. I can really relate to your question. At first, my main priority was looks, but before I knew it, compatibility and personality started to matter more. Lately, I’ve started making offers not just based on appearance, but also to women whose profiles show we share common interests or who genuinely catch my attention. That said, I feel like if I continue this way, I’ll eventually start wanting to meet women based mainly on looks again. It’s a never-ending cycle, haha. Ideally, I’d like to meet someone who satisfies me both inside and out. However, I think that in order to bring out the best in the other person, I first need to work on myself. Since I’m being evaluated by the women as well, I feel I need to keep improving—not only my conversational skills, but also my ability to be thoughtful and attentive in various ways.

I’m Ruler, a male member of UC and a member of the new salon. I went through the same dilemma for a while. It’s a very luxurious problem to have, though… My solution was to make a woman’s personality the deciding factor for continuing things. In addition to being exceptionally beautiful, I’d look for someone who had a great personality, shared my interests, laughed at the same things I did, and with whom I could have a wonderful time even outside of intimacy. That helped me settle on what I wanted. Honestly, in a dating club, it’s relatively easy to have an intimate relationship with an exceptionally beautiful woman. But it’s much harder to find someone whose inner qualities truly click with you. Before joining a dating club, I had assumed I had to choose between looks and personality. I’d convinced myself that they were a trade-off and that it wasn’t possible to be satisfied with both. But in reality, I think dating clubs are wonderful places where you can meet women who satisfy you in both respects. In that sense, I feel I’ve become more selective about the women I meet. Even if a woman is beautiful, if we don’t click in conversation or otherwise, I tend to say goodbye fairly quickly. At the moment, there’s only one woman I’m continuing with on a monthly arrangement, but she’s almost 100% perfect for me, both in appearance and personality. My intimate relationship with her has been something truly wonderful—unlike anything I’ve experienced before. I hope you have a wonderful encounter.

I’m a male member in Seattle. Why not try joining the Standard Class and see how you like it? You might enjoy discovering something new. Try choosing someone with distinctive qualities.