I’m Rula, a male member of UC and a member of the new salon.
I see. I understand how you feel.
That said, from the woman’s perspective, being told, “From next time on, I’m going to reduce your allowance for sex a little,” would probably be quite difficult to accept...
I don’t know if this will be helpful, but I’ll share an example where I effectively reduced the allowance for sex without being disliked by the woman—in fact, she may even have been pleased.
Sex is important to me, but I also place just as much value on enjoying our conversations. So, early on, I make a point of meeting again without leaving too much time in between.
Sometimes we have sex both the first and second time. Other times, the first meeting is dinner only and the second includes sex, or the first includes sex and the second is dinner only.
If we enjoy talking together—even without sex—and also feel that we’re highly compatible physically, I suggest moving to a monthly arrangement, meeting around three or four times a month.
The woman I’ll call A, whom I met recently, was very attractive. Our conversations were fairly enjoyable too...
We agreed to terms of ¥10,000 for dinner and ¥80,000 afterward for an adult relationship (intimate).
For several months, we met about twice a month, and I gave her an allowance each time. Since the adult relationship took place once a month, that worked out to a monthly allowance of ¥90,000.
In the fourth month, I suggested to A, “Rather than giving you money each time, would it be easier for you to plan your budget if I paid you in advance at the beginning of each month?”
I proposed ¥100,000 per month for meeting twice.
Since the amount wasn’t an issue, A agreed. When we switched to a monthly arrangement, I also suggested that we no longer had to stick to the previous pattern of “sex once and dinner only once” within the two meetings. If we both wanted to, we could have sex both times we met.
A replied, “Absolutely.”
Since then, there have been months when our meeting happened to fall during her period, so we’ve sometimes had sex only once that month. But basically, we enjoy sex twice a month.
So, in practical terms, under our original pay-per-meeting arrangement:
Twice-monthly sex = ¥160,000
But now it’s:
Twice-monthly sex = ¥100,000
From my perspective, the cost performance has improved considerably.
A is aware of that, but she’s meeting her monthly target of ¥100,000, and she seems to like me, so I’m very grateful.
That’s one specific example of how making good use of pay-per-meeting and monthly arrangements can effectively lower the cost.
I hope you’re able to build a good relationship as well☆
I’m Seattle, a male member.
As a man, I understand how you feel.
I don’t have the nerve to reduce her allowance, so I’d end the arrangement.
