I’m a male member.

I’m Saito, the column writer ♪ > I’d prefer you not see anyone else! Learning to let go of that mindset may be part of the training for male members of a dating club.

I’m a male member based in Seattle. When a woman is somewhat less attractive, it often ends up becoming a one-on-one arrangement. Even so, there are definitely women with great personalities. If she seems popular, you’ll need to offer a fairly generous allowance and ask her to be exclusive.

I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member. Regardless of their relationship type, I’ve seen female members whose profiles say they’re looking to date one particular person. Wouldn’t it be better to approach women like that? People join a dating club—men and women alike—because they’re looking for a good connection. Regardless of their relationship type, women who seem like a good match are likely to be popular with other men as well. They may be meeting multiple people and could even be developing relationships with several of them. But that goes both ways, so you first have to accept that reality. > As a condition for continuing the relationship, I’d like you to refrain from seeing other people. The woman has the final say in which man she chooses, so I imagine this ultimately comes down to the allowance amount that often gets discussed here. If she’s satisfied, she may no longer feel the need to accept offers from other male members. It seems to come down to how much she’s asking for and how far the man is willing to go.