Thank you for your question. I’m Kida, the representative, and I’ll answer it.
Two possible answers came to mind, so I’ll share both.
●The model answer
・To narrow the gap as much as possible between female members’ understanding and that of our male members, our concierge Nanase conducts educational activities, such as papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) seminars for women in general.
・Through our blog and columns, we help women understand what male members are looking for—romantic relationships based on long-term trust—and discourage women from joining simply as a “part-time job to earn transportation money.”
・We have been making our screening process for female applicants stricter and working every day to improve how we explain things and refine our screening criteria. For example, we record video of every coordinator’s interview, which Area Manager Takita reviews.
We are currently undertaking these initiatives, but it would be hard to say that they have produced major results. I don’t believe a definitive system or set of rules can be created overnight, so we hope to gradually build up experience through efforts like these and eventually establish an effective framework.
●The bad (honest) answer
Yes, I can understand why it would hurt. Even if you’re filthy rich, it would still be infuriating. But an investment mistake is your own mistake.
If you have money to burn, you probably have more options when it comes to how you spend your time—if that’s what you want. For example, if you put 100 million yen in cash in front of someone and made a request, you could probably make quite a lot happen. Something involving a famous celebrity, for instance.
You’re probably already doing things like that, right? Floating a yacht in the Caribbean and surrounding yourself with beautiful women from different countries, for example.
With that approach, perhaps you would have a better chance of avoiding a situation where “you didn’t go to a hotel on the first meeting and couldn’t meet again afterward.”
But is that really what you want?
Not going to a hotel on the first meeting and never being able to meet again afterward means you were rejected.
It wasn’t an investment mistake or anything else. You simply got rejected by that young woman, despite trying to use the power of money. What else is there to it?
Maybe she thought, “What a small-minded man,” because you kept talking about having money to burn. If I were a woman, I would think the same.
“Don’t be ridiculous. Just because you flash your money around doesn’t mean I’ll do whatever you say.”
As for an effective system, dating clubs are already an incredibly good system, and I think you’re only beginning to see its most basic essence.
What Nanase talks about in her papa-katsu seminars is how to communicate between older men and younger women.
It’s not about sexual techniques or how to negotiate an allowance.
(Although there is a little of that, too.)
I think there are probably around four billion people on Earth who struggle to communicate well with members of the opposite sex who are much older or younger than them. As a result, they experience stress, fail to get promoted, cannot marry, get divorced, or even take their own lives.
If both men and women mastered papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), men would earn the trust of female colleagues at work and their wives, while women would be able to skillfully handle a difficult male boss in his forties.
That is what I hope papa-katsu can become.
So forget about “investment mistakes,” having money to burn, effective systems, and advantages. I want to see the deeper essence of it.
That said, I do believe that misunderstandings regarding relationship types are a mistake on the club’s part. We will continue implementing the initiatives outlined in the model answer so that we can keep improving our accuracy.
