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Dec 31, 2025 07:15
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🏅 筋は通します、色気も忘れずに
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Age: Private
👩 Female
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Generally speaking, when a woman isn’t sufficiently lubricated, intimacy is more likely to feel burdensome or painful for her than pleasurable. A woman’s body is very honest: natural lubrication usually comes when she feels good, safe, and relaxed. That said, the body can also lubricate reflexively as a form of self-protection even when she isn’t enjoying herself, so being lubricated doesn’t necessarily mean she’s completely into it emotionally.
As for how it feels for men, some men can still enjoy it even when she isn’t wet. But that’s a separate matter from whether it’s comfortable or gentle for the woman’s body. If things are pushed ahead forcefully, she may end up enduring the pain, causing both her mind and body to shut down.
Practically speaking, using an appropriate lubricant around the entrance can greatly reduce the physical strain. If you then take things slowly, it’s often possible to continue comfortably afterward.
And this is very important: people often say that women “get wet with their minds.” A sense of security, kind words, the way she’s touched, the atmosphere, and trust in her partner—all these things build up, and her body naturally responds.
To put it a little more casually, this is where a man really gets to show what he can do!
I hope you’ll avoid making it one-sided and cherish the time you spend together so that you can both feel comfortable.
🏅 パパ活歴7年目突入
彼氏/既婚/他パパ/セフレOK/全力応援
Age: 50s
👨 Male
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I understand that some women have a hard time getting wet.
Since they’re being intimate with an older papa, I can also understand why it may be even harder for them to get aroused.
If she isn’t wet, it won’t go in to begin with, and it looks painful for her, so Fuu isn’t possible.
I do bring lubricant with me just in case, though I’ve only used it about twice in the past. Once, a woman brought some herself and asked if it was okay to use.
Sometimes, during the second round, the woman takes the lead and gets on top, which I’m happy about. But there are times when she still isn’t properly wet, so I check how wet she is, haha. I’ll either do 69 or use my mouth to get her wet before going in.
For people who don’t get wet easily, this kind of activity might be difficult. I do think those who get wet easily are better suited to it.
Women who like older men and are erotic are the best—perfect!
When a woman with a seemingly innocent face reacts with little shudders at the first touch during her first adult relationship, I think, “I struck gold!” ^_^
迷わない70代
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パパ活歴11年目、回答者歴8年目の関西在住者。パパ活終活中（笑）
Age: 70 or older
👨 Male
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The first time isn’t a problem because I make sure she’s thoroughly aroused beforehand. By the second or third time, though, there’s usually an interval, so she may have dried up a bit. If I try to force penetration, I can feel some resistance, which makes me worry about whether she’s okay, and I end up stopping without being able to enjoy it. Sometimes she gradually gets wet again if we just leave things as they are, but more often I pull away and go back to oral sex for a while…
Like Dateyume, I’ll also be taking a break from PATOLO as of today. I’ll continue being active elsewhere, so I hope I’ll be able to answer your questions again in the future.
🏅 パパ活お助け相談員
心配事や疑問について、できる限り寄り添いながら回答していきますので、みなさん…お手柔らかにお願いします😊
👨 Male
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If you’re not wet, my penis hurts and I can’t move.
横断歩道
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🏅 デート開拓者
ユニバース5年目。女性とはいろいろな商業施設に行ってデートしています。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
If she isn’t wet enough, it seems painful for her and she can’t move. We use lube for women who have trouble getting wet. (It really varies a lot from person to person.)
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Whether it feels good or not varies from person to person, so I don’t think there’s a one-size-fits-all answer.
For example, I’m sure some people enjoy it even with just a dry hand.
Some people are satisfied as long as they feel good themselves, while others aren’t satisfied unless their partner enjoys it too.
That said, if she isn’t wet, I imagine it would be painful for her. But, in turn, does it feel good for you?
👨 Male
Universe member
I haven’t met one either.
I think it’s probably because I’m good at easing people into things, haha. That’s the only explanation I can come up with, haha.
🏅 プロおぢ。ほんとはプロパパと名乗りたいけど名乗るほどの実力がない名古屋の汚っさんです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
Are there vaginas that don’t get wet? I’ve never encountered one.
🏅 大阪の昼寝引きこもりトレーダー
スペ90以下のひとを厚く囲い込み、一生面倒見て実質一夫多妻で大切にしたい独身です。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
It’s really rough and uncomfortable, so I always bring my own lubricant.