Feel free to be selective. It’s not fair to the man if you meet him reluctantly.
That said, canceling at the last minute will hurt your rating, so if you’re going to turn someone down, do it from the start.
New women join every day, so offers will naturally decrease over time anyway.
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I think it depends on how you turned him down.
For example, if you decline an offer from a man in his 50s and say, “I’m not comfortable with men in their 50s,” you can add something to your profile like “I only accept offers from men in their 40s or younger.” After that, you probably won’t receive offers from men in their 50s and up.
> Aren’t women allowed to be selective?
I’m not sure what you mean by choosing someone before meeting them. You haven’t even met them, and most men don’t have photos either, so what are you basing your choice on?
If you’re going to choose, I think the natural way is to meet first and decide afterward.
In any case, if your terms are strict, you’ll only receive offers from people who meet them, even without turning anyone down. So the smaller the pool, the fewer offers you’ll get.
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I’ve had two offers turned down in the past year.
The more offers you decline, the more it feels like you’re missing out on opportunities. Of course, you have the right to choose, but there are things you won’t know until you actually meet someone.
If that’s what you feel is happening, then you may be right—you might stop receiving offers altogether from then on（笑）
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It’s the same ID as the previous question, “I’ve genuinely fallen in love with my papa,” but it seems like you have all kinds of problems. Do you have multiple personalities?
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This isn’t limited to dating clubs—generally speaking, if you turn down invitations repeatedly, people will naturally stop inviting you. I’m sure you do the same yourself.
It’s not that women shouldn’t be selective. It’s simply a common reality that anyone—regardless of gender—who is overly picky will have fewer opportunities.
From my own experience, I’ve made offers more than 100 times, and I’ve never had one turned down. The only exception was one woman I was unable to get in touch with.
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