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Dec 16, 2025 17:42
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I’m a female member who just registered this month. I have a few questions about Letter Dates.
- In your experience, roughly what percentage of Letter Dates actually lead to meeting in person? An estimate is fine.
- Approximately what percentage of all Universe Club members use this service?
- When I went to my interview, I didn’t really understand what Letter Dates were, so I declined. Does declining leave a bad impression on male members?
I’d like to try using Letter Dates, but I’m worried about things like being ghosted or exchanging emails without it ever leading to a date.
I’d be grateful if you could share anything at all—even your personal thoughts or experiences with Letter Dates.
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Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
If you want to receive even a few more offers, I think it’s fine to allow letter dates as well.
Usually, you exchange LINE contact details directly and communicate that way, so it’s pretty much the same as Pato. If you’ve used Pato, you’ll know that cancellations at the last minute and suddenly losing contact can happen there too.
That said, even clubs have same-day cancellations.
Since the offer fee for a letter date is lower, if you don’t want to deal with stingy papas, it’s perfectly fine to keep letter dates disabled.
🏅 プロおぢ。ほんとはプロパパと名乗りたいけど名乗るほどの実力がない名古屋の汚っさんです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’d say the chances of actually meeting through Letter Date are around 80%.
A certain number of people stop responding, and last-minute cancellations on the day of the date are also common. When that happens, the papa loses the Letter Date fee, so there are downsides for the papa as well.
For women, there are also significant benefits. If the papa is reasonable, he’ll transfer the Letter Date fee at the start of the exchange, and when they actually meet, he may use the money saved on the Letter Date fee toward transportation costs and the allowance.
On the other hand, as Mr. Maezawa points out, it also seems to be creating a breeding ground for extremely stingy papas.
I’m in a position where business is booming thanks to all those stingy papas, so I hope Letter Date continues.
Just handing over the Letter Date fee gets a woman to open her legs about 90 degrees, and if you handle Letter Date well, it’s even possible to go straight from the meeting place to a hotel with a B-type woman and have sex from behind while looking down at the city through the window. Sometimes you don’t even need to stop at Saizeriya.
https://universe-club.jp/column/240215letterdate
You may also find this column written by a friend of mine helpful.
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Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
・What percentage of people who use Letter Date actually end up meeting in person, roughly speaking?
In my experience, it’s close to 100%.
・Roughly what percentage of all Universe Club members use it?
I believe it’s currently only available to Black members.
As for offers, around 60–70% use Letter Date.
・When I went for my interview, I didn’t really understand what Letter Date was, so I opted out. Does that leave a bad impression on men?
It doesn’t leave a bad impression, but you may be excluded from potential offers.
If you say you’re open to it, it will create a better impression.
With Letter Date, you can smoothly coordinate schedules directly without going through the staff. Since you communicate directly, it’s easy to mention and confirm your free time—even small gaps in your schedule—so you can meet much sooner.
When going through staff, it can take several hours, half a day, or even a full day. With Letter Date, since you communicate directly, you can decide on a date after just a few exchanges—sometimes within 10 or 20 minutes.
You don’t have the hassle of contacting the staff and waiting for a response. You can also make fine adjustments, which is a major advantage: instead of only arranging times far in advance, you can work out a time that looks like it might actually fit. When going through staff, they can only set up a date when both parties can definitely keep the entire time free.
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お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Letter Date originally started because respondents in the Q&A section said they wanted a feature like that.
They wanted something like the old-fashioned exchange of letters, to pay women an allowance without going against the spirit of papa-katsu, and to meet only after getting to know each other’s personalities through writing. Since it was such a great concept, Letter Date was launched.
However, because the setting fee paid by men was reduced by half at the time, it ended up being used by men who wanted to cut costs, making it extremely unpopular with women.
As a result, there is now almost no benefit to allowing Letter Date. Meeting a man who wants to save on the setting fee—and would likely also be stingy with the allowance—probably wouldn’t be a very good experience.
Also, PATOLO is available now, and I assume that women who register with Universe Club are generally registered with PATOLO as well. (It isn’t mandatory, but if someone comes to a Universe interview and is asked, “You’ll register with PATOLO too, right?” it’s hard to say no, so I imagine many people register.)
With PATOLO, you can chat for free without even paying half the setting fee. So the common reason men gave for using Letter Date—wanting to confirm in advance whether the allowance matched what they were looking for—can now be addressed sufficiently through PATOLO’s chat.
Because of that, since PATOLO was introduced, people who want to know the allowance in advance have disappeared, and it seems that the only men who want to apply for Letter Date now are those who simply want to save on the setting fee.
So, speaking personally, I think it’s fine to keep Letter Date disabled as before.
> Does having it disabled give men a bad impression?
I don’t think many men care about that, so I doubt it will hurt your impression.
If you aren’t getting any offers, sending men a “You seem wonderful” message may help a little.
That said, sending only “You seem wonderful” won’t have much effect. The key is to add a personalized message for each person.