I’m 54 now. Three years ago, I contacted Universe Club and was asked to send in some photos and come in for an interview. Unfortunately, circumstances prevented me from going. Some time has passed since then, but would it be okay to contact them again?

I don’t think there’s any problem with reaching out at all. Universe Club says its guideline is “up to age 45,” but I feel that’s merely a general benchmark. In reality, I’ve heard that women over 45 are still accepted without issue if they have a lovely presence, a well-groomed appearance, and a pleasant way of speaking. It seems they look less at age itself and more at how polished you are as a woman, along with your overall impression. I also don’t think you need to worry too much about not being able to attend the interview three years ago. It’s not unusual for the schedule to fall through because of circumstances on the woman’s side, and the staff deal with many people every day, so it’s unlikely they took it particularly seriously. What matters is simply this: How appealing “the current you” comes across. That’s what I believe. There’s no need to feel intimidated. If anything, the poise and composure that come with age can be a real strength unique to your generation. If you’re even a little curious, I definitely think it’s worth reaching out once. This isn’t a world where “your age means you’re out of the question.” It’s a place where “if your presence is appealing, age isn’t a problem.” With the charm you have now, I believe the door will open again. Please don’t underestimate yourself—take that positive step forward.

If they contacted you about an interview in the past, why not reach out with confidence? I’m sure there are plenty of people who gave up because they couldn’t find the courage to go to their first meeting. What matters most is how you feel! Best of luck. The person I currently see most often first registered a year and a half ago, at age 55. I made an offer right away, and we’ve continued seeing each other ever since. A wonderful person is wonderful at any age! Drawing the line at 45 shows they really don’t get it. 😢

There’s nothing to lose by reaching out, so even if you feel it might not work out, I think you should give it a try. You’re more likely to regret not trying. If you do try and it doesn’t work out, it’ll be easier to move on. Honestly, since you’re older than Fuu, if you asked me whether I’d spend money to make you an offer, my answer would be no. But if there’s something special about you—if you’re extremely beautiful, have a great figure, or seem particularly sexy—you may still receive offers. You might even get offers from papas who are older than Fuu, perhaps in their 60s to 80s. So first, find the courage to try. You’re the youngest you’ll ever be right now, so don’t wait and end up regretting it.

It now says: “Applicants must be between 18 and 45 years old and able to provide valid identification.” https://universe-club.jp/women/join/ If you registered three years ago, you may still have remained a member. And even if you had withdrawn once, I believe you could re-register if you had a record of receiving offers. However, now that the age limit for new applicants is clearly stated as 18–45, it seems difficult to register for the first time at this point. In that sense, I suppose you could say, “Opportunity only knocks once.” It’s not quite that dramatic, but if you were thinking of applying, I believe you should have done so at the time. That said, if you had already applied before and were told to come in for an interview, you might still be able to attend the interview. > Would it be okay to contact them again? I think it would be worth reaching out to them.

We’re the same age. Did you turn down the club three years ago, saying you couldn’t go because of personal circumstances? If so, you should give it another try. But if you skipped a scheduled meeting without letting them know, it’ll be noted in your history, so you’re better off not going.