Maezawa-san’s point about men who prefer virgins is that there are two groups. One consists of men who have never been with a virgin and want to try it at least once in their lives. The other group—including me—is more of a “mentor” type: we want to guide someone from that nervous, inexperienced stage, just like the person asking this question.
The allowance is probably higher with the first group—maybe ¥300,000 or more?
The second group generally doesn’t pay that much. In my case, when the usual allowance for an adult relationship (intimate) is ¥50,000, I add another ¥50,000 as a congratulatory gift, for a total of ¥100,000.
Whether things continue afterward depends on the other person and your compatibility, but speaking only for myself, when we click and continue seeing each other, feelings tend to develop quickly.
Incidentally, among the women I’m still seeing, there are three whom I met through UniLive and who had their first experience with me. One of them says she still hasn’t been with anyone else, though that’s based solely on what she told me.
Two of the three had posted questions here along the lines of, “I’m a virgin—is that okay?” I contacted them after they searched for “Mac-san from the Nagoya branch” and used the “You seem wonderful” feature, then offered to meet them. I guess nowadays you’d just use Patrol’s messaging system.
If the papa (a male supporter) you’re dealing with is someone who’s looking forward to being your first, you should probably avoid him out of consideration for him. But if he wants to be intimate with you and simply finds the fact that you’re a virgin troublesome, feel free to contact me and I’ll help you graduate from virginity. I haven’t counted, but I’ve probably helped nearly 20 women through their first time, so I’m used to it.
Saying, “I’m planning to be intimate with my boyfriend, but I feel bad that I’m still a virgin,” and having an older man experienced through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) be her first is probably shocking to people who haven’t heard of it, but it really does happen occasionally. I’ve come across about two such cases myself.
If you happen to meet a man who simply wants to try being with a virgin, the allowance may be high, but it will probably be painful, and he may not even be able to go through with it. Virgin men and women can be a lot like so-called “amateur virgins”—men who have only ever had intimate experiences at adult establishments.
Helping someone through her first time requires completely different skills from making a woman climax. It’s not about the foreplay; it’s about easing her anxiety as much as possible. So there are even methods that would make an outsider doubt their ears, such as having another woman help by holding her hand.
Experience doesn’t really matter to me.
No matter how much experience someone has, I lose interest if it feels like they’re just doing a job or cutting corners. On the other hand, if they’re genuinely putting in the effort, I’ll do my best to match their energy.
I’ve traveled with an 18-year-old virgin I met through Universe Club who was Type A. We slept in the same bed, but I didn’t lay a finger on her.
It was one of the most fulfilling experiences I’ve ever had, so if I find another virgin Type A girl through Universe Club, I think I’ll make her an offer again.
To the person who asked: I won’t make a move, so let’s travel together before you leave virginity behind, haha.
When it comes to women with no experience, men seem to be split into two very different camps.
For men who want to enjoy H, it can feel like a hassle—or simply not enjoyable—so they’re probably not that eager to meet women like that.
On the other hand, men who prefer first-timers might normally offer 50, but offer 200 if it’s her first time. Those who usually give more might offer over 500 for someone’s first time.
That’s the kind of thing I mean—they place a high value on rarity. Of course, they may also feel that since they’re her first, they want to teach her various things.
If the man you’re meeting knows that this will be your first time, he has probably already anticipated that you may be extremely nervous on the day or that things may not go all the way because of heavy bleeding.
So I think you can relax and just let him take the lead.
That said, some strange men have unprotected sex with virgins because they claim you can’t get pregnant the first time. That’s obviously a lie.
With that in mind, it’s important to think carefully about what you want to do yourself and to say what needs to be said.
I can’t speak for everyone, but I found it troublesome. Some people say they didn’t find it troublesome, though.
In my experience, it worked out without any problems. But I’ve heard both from people who had no trouble and from people who couldn’t make it work.
Just because the person next to you can run 100 meters in 10 seconds doesn’t mean you can do it in 10 seconds too. No matter how things went for someone else, there’s no way to know whether the same applies to you, so comparing yourself to others doesn’t really tell you much.
