Just one point from my side.
With Universe Club, the transportation allowance for the first meeting is generally fixed at 10,000 yen, both for regular arrangements and letter dates.
With PATOLO, the woman can choose any amount from 0 to 20,000 yen, so if the transportation allowance was set to anything other than 10,000 yen, that amount may differ.
The allowance itself shouldn’t be any different, but according to women I’ve met, their local statistics suggest that offers from PATOLO tend to come with lower proposed allowances.
There’s not really a difference in the allowance—or rather, you haven’t discussed the allowance yet, right?
Wow, that’s quite an elaborate workaround. I think there are probably two possible reasons:
- To lower the offer fee the man pays the club
- Or because the club’s offer fee is being covered with points
As an aside, do your best to clearly communicate your desired allowance and anything you’re not comfortable with. The beginning is crucial!
Anything you agree to at the start will become the default.
> Is this a common sequence of events?
It’s not very common.
I think the man probably chose this approach because he thought it would be the cheapest way to reduce the setting fee.
After exchanging messages on PATOLO, it’s generally standard to make the offer and arrange the date through PATOLO.
> Is there any difference in the allowance or other terms between going on a date through a Letter Date and accepting an offer from PATOLO or a club?
The setting fee for a Letter Date is half price.
That means it can be arranged more cheaply than making an offer through PATOLO.
There’s no difference in the allowance, but if a man is being this stingy about the setting fee, you can reasonably expect him to be stingy with the allowance he offers women as well.
There’s a chance the allowance could be quite low, so you should prepare yourself for that possibility in advance.
Of course, it’s also possible that he’s saving on the setting fee so he can offer a higher allowance, but statistically, I’d say that’s probably less than a 1% chance.
So first, you should decide in advance how much allowance you want and how low you’re willing to go. If the offer is below that amount, decide beforehand that you’ll turn it down.
Otherwise, you may get swept up in the moment and end up accepting a lower allowance than you expected, only to regret it afterward.
Of course, everyone has their own strategy.
You could choose a strategy of accepting whatever allowance he offers the first time. You might be pleasantly surprised and find that he’s actually a good person.
If he is, you may still be able to enjoy spending time with him in ways other than the allowance, so it may be worth valuing that kind of person.
That said, an arrangement that causes you constant stress isn’t a good one, so it’s worth thinking carefully about what strategy works best for you.
> An offer through Letter Date is separate from a confirmed date through PATOLO, right?
An offer through Letter Date is an offer from Universe Club, and the date is confirmed through Universe Club.
So the date is not arranged through PATOLO.
That means you would contact Universe Club—not PATOLO staff—for surveys, feedback about the other person, or help if any problems arise.
Since the man’s date has already been confirmed through Universe Club, I don’t think he’ll make an offer through PATOLO.
By the way, with a Letter Date, the setting is considered complete once you and the other person have exchanged messages. After that, it’s okay to decide not to meet because you don’t like what they wrote.
Whether or not to meet is ultimately up to the individuals involved.
However, if you decide not to meet without a clear reason, the club may contact you.
