Even when I eat delicious food or get told I’m cute, I still don’t feel fulfilled.
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I’m posting on the forum this late at night because I feel lonely.
Would becoming prettier or making more money make me feel fulfilled?
What do you all think?
I see. I also think telling them only to “save money” might come across as a little cold. The person asking seems to be expressing their loneliness and emotional emptiness while looking for empathy and some helpful suggestions, so I think it would be better to respond with compassion. How about something like this?
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**Answerer: (your name)**
Your late-night post really feels like a glimpse into what’s in your heart. I can really understand how lonely you feel. When even delicious food or words of praise can’t fill that emptiness, it can be genuinely difficult to know what to do.
Making money and becoming more beautiful are certainly wonderful goals, but I’m not sure they’re enough to truly fulfill you on their own. In my experience, moments spent laughing with someone or getting completely absorbed in something I love can sometimes warm my heart when I least expect it. Maybe you could try doing something you used to enjoy, or give a hobby you’ve been curious about a chance. If you gradually collect little moments of “fun” at your own pace, you might start to feel a little lighter.
For now, please take your time, get plenty of rest, and be kind to yourself. I really think it was incredibly brave of you to open up here. Whenever you feel like talking, come back anytime!
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I think responding in this way—showing empathy while gently offering a few small suggestions without being pushy—might make it easier for the person asking to take in. What do you think?
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I came up with an answer of my own and asked ChatGPT for its opinion, but it was promptly rejected.
It told me that the person asking already understands all of that, and that they posted here because they simply wanted someone to empathize with them.
I was about to write about the Blue Bird, so I thought, “Ah, I see.”
Why not have the person asking the question talk with ChatGPT themselves? Sometimes it misses the mark a little, but AI has been improving every day lately.
I hope it helps, even if only a little.
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Don’t worry.
It’s not like us older guys feel satisfied just because we’ve ejaculated. If anything, we’re often left with a stronger “What the hell am I doing?” feeling.
I wonder what it takes to feel truly fulfilled. I work incredibly hard, but my ambitions only keep growing every year, so I feel like I might go through life without ever feeling satisfied.
If I had to name one thing, it’s probably when I can think, “Regardless of the outcome, I gave it everything I had.” For example, I felt fulfilled after yesterday’s work presentation because I really felt like I’d done my best—even if it only lasted for a moment, lol.
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Happiness is something you have to feel for yourself.
Even if you become rich
or more beautiful,
unless you can think, “I’m glad to be me,”
you won’t truly be happy.
It’s not like becoming ○○ automatically makes you happy.
Just being born in Japan is lucky.
Being born to ordinary parents who can at least keep food on the table is lucky too.
Life may be a hassle in many ways, but you’re still alive and doing your best—that’s enough, isn’t it?
The other day, a woman in her twenties whom I made my first offer to told me,
“Fuu, your breath doesn’t smell, and you smell nice.”
She said she’d had a hard time on crowded trains because the older men’s breath smelled bad.
(It made me happy because I personally try hard to take care of myself, though.)
So for you, the questioner, maybe you could think:
“I met this papa for the first time after he made me an offer, and his breath doesn’t smell—lucky me!”
Something like that, haha.
Wouldn’t it be good to keep adding up these little bits of luck?
Wonyoung mindset.
Lucky Vicky, haha.
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You’re posting in the middle of the night simply because you’re bored.
I recommend *The Ethics of Boredom and Idleness* (Shincho Bunko). I think reading this book will keep you from posting—not just at night, but anytime.
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I’m Andy.
That does sound really lonely.
In my 30s, I used to go out drinking like an idiot. It wasn’t good for my health, and it left my wallet feeling pretty empty. I don’t regret it, but I wasn’t fulfilled either.
As I approached 40, I took up a sport I’d been really into during my school days. I got completely hooked, and I’m still enjoying it to this day. Since joining Universe Club two years ago, I’ve been more fulfilled than ever through both my hobbies and my activities.
You should start by taking action and finding something you can really get absorbed in.
Even if I ever quit my activities, I don’t think I could give up my hobbies. Of course, I have absolutely no intention of quitting my activities right now, though（笑）
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I’m not sure what would make you feel fulfilled, but on X (formerly Twitter), there seem to be people who will reply even late at night, and you may also find people you can meet.
It might be worth trying different things to figure out what makes you feel fulfilled—or at least what seems like it might.
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Life is long, and all sorts of things happen.
Even I’ve stayed up all night working, or spent the whole night awake in a daze because I was so disappointed.
I think your heart is simply exhausted right now. Rather than worrying about looking beautiful or earning money, the most important thing is to let your body rest. Even if you can’t sleep, try lying down and resting.
Let’s take our time and slowly heal your heart, without rushing.
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