I came down with something the day before our date, so I apologized and asked to reschedule. She said that since she’d set aside the time, she still wanted the allowance.
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In a situation like this, would it be reasonable to pay her? That said, she keeps trying to decide on restaurants she wants to go to without consulting me, and she’s also tried to increase the allowance each time we meet. Honestly, I’m starting to feel like I don’t need to see her anymore.
They’re taking advantage of your attachment.
It sounds like she’s in a position where she figures that even if things end with you, she might as well get as much allowance as she can while it lasts.
If you don’t want to break things off because she’s attractive or the sex is good, even though her personality and attitude are unpleasant, then you could keep paying and continue seeing her.
But if you’re fine with not seeing her again, I’d cancel your next date and block her on LINE.
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I’m Andy, a member.
Others have already answered, so this may be a bit late, but—
Once you’ve established a relationship, an occasional last-minute cancellation shouldn’t be a problem since it goes both ways. I once had to cancel on the day because of work, but when we met again later, I gave her a little extra on my own initiative. She never asked me for it.
As for her asking for a higher allowance each time you meet, you’ve been remarkably patient to go along with it repeatedly. If it were me, I’d end things immediately after being asked even once.
Fortunately, I’ve never had a woman ask me for more money.
Hope this helps.
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If she’s someone I want to continue seeing, and the meeting is canceled because of something on the man’s end, of course I’ll still send her the money even if we don’t meet. The man is at fault for getting sick.
If I don’t want to continue seeing her, then I’d do the same as everyone mentioned above.
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It sounds like you’ve already reached your own conclusion, so I think it’s perfectly fine to go with that.
Personally, as long as you contact them promptly once you realize you’re feeling unwell, I don’t think it’s a problem, depending on how often it happens. However, if you’re canceling just an hour before meeting up, I’d consider that pretty inconsiderate.
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Due to work and other commitments, I occasionally cancel a few days in advance, but I’ll offer alternative dates within the next week or two. I don’t pay anything for minor scheduling adjustments.
If there’s a long gap between meetings, I may add a little extra next time, though.
By the way, if someone tries to increase the allowance every time we meet, I take it as them deliberately asking for too much and sending the message that they want me to turn them down. In that case, I cut things off immediately.
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All of the regulars I value are on monthly arrangements, so if I cancel, they simply lose one date that month. In that sense, they’re the lucky ones, so we’ve never had any arguments over it.
Even if she’s on a monthly arrangement, if it’s actually pay-per-meeting, then when I cancel because of my own circumstances, I either transfer the allowance to her bank account or send it via PayPay.
I imagine women cancel at the last minute fairly often, but I’m a workaholic, so I just think, “Lucky me—I can get some work done! ☆” It doesn’t bother me.
That said, I think what Mac-san is saying is correct. I’m the king of stoically putting up with things, and I have the odd hobby of “toughening myself up,” so I’ll defend a woman no matter what the circumstances—but you don’t need to do that. That’s just my particular kink.
If you feel even a little uncomfortable, end things quickly and offer a date to someone else. The next woman gets an opportunity and will probably be happy about it. Cherish the new women who are happy to receive an offer from you.
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I treat the woman I’m seeing like an actress.
Since I’ve asked her to set aside time in her schedule, I make it up to her depending on when I cancel. If it’s on the same day, I pay the full amount; the day before, half; and if it’s earlier than that, probably nothing.
Alternatively, I might make it up to her by buying her something she wants the next time we meet.
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You’re a grown man—why not think it through and decide for yourself?
If it were me, and it was someone important with whom I had an ongoing relationship, I’d take the initiative to make it up to them if I had to cancel at the last minute for personal reasons.
That said, I wouldn’t continue seeing someone I didn’t click with.
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