Is there anyone looking for a serious, exclusive connection?

Me too, to some extent. In my case, I found someone relatively easily. I’ve been seeing the same woman for eight years now. For the first six months or so, we weren’t exclusive, but as Mac mentioned, we both prioritized protecting our identities and preventing sexually transmitted infections, and I think that naturally led to us becoming exclusive. During the first year, I was constantly eager to make new offers, but after that, our relationship became stable, and I gradually stopped feeling the need to look for anyone else. Also, she had left the club, so I was the only man she was seeing. She didn’t seem interested in getting a boyfriend either, so we just kept things going as they were（笑） There was an age gap of more than 40 years, so at first, there was certainly an aspect of me being a source of money for her. But the longer we’ve been together, the stronger—or perhaps deeper—our relationship has become. Recently, she’s even been saying things like, “We’ll still see each other after we end our allowance-based relationship, right?” She does want to get married, though, so she’ll need to end things before long. I’ve already left Universe, so I’m trying to find someone to take her place while I still have a free Patro membership, but this time I’m the one getting turned down over and over, so it’s not going very well（笑） It reminds me of when I first joined Universe. Looking at the data, I can understand why men in their 70s have so many offers each year.

It’s not difficult, and there are plenty of women who think the same way. In fact, there may even be more women who want that. As mentioned in the other answers, some women are satisfied with an allowance (personally, I don’t really consider that dating… perhaps it’s simply a contract being fulfilled). Even when that isn’t the case, you can use the “trump card” of offering an allowance in addition to building a relationship, so it’s far easier than looking for or finding a girlfriend or marriage partner. However, men are creatures who tend to misunderstand things. That’s precisely why clubs where men seek women can exist in the first place… Even if you think you have great chemistry, the woman may actually be putting up with things like your weight when you’re on top of her or her hair being pulled painfully. You may think, “She must be a good sleeper,” and feel reassured, when in reality she might just be pretending to sleep because she’s bored. Unless you show women a considerable amount of consideration, they can’t behave as they truly wish, and it’s actually quite difficult to develop genuinely good chemistry. For that, I think the only option is to gain experience through ordinary dating, rather than through a club. Whether it’s through a club or ordinary dating, I think it would be ideal if men could show enough consideration toward women and spend money in a way that makes the women mistakenly believe things are going even better than they really are. Additional note after reading Mr. Maezawa’s answer: > “Improve yourself for about ten years” Really? You certainly know how to do business. Sorry if I’m mistaken, but wouldn’t someone who is going to succeed usually figure things out fairly quickly—within a few months or perhaps half a year? If you gain experience in the wrong way, a club arrangement allows both people to be considerate, avoid saying anything unpleasant, and simply move on to the next person. So with a man who isn’t very good at this, the more experience he gains, the more his misunderstandings may grow—because the women are being considerate and saying nothing, preventing him from noticing the real cause.

> The reason you can’t seem to meet your ideal partner is that you’re being stingy with the allowance—period. I couldn’t agree more. > Try offering an allowance that exceeds what your partner is asking for. You can start building trust from that very day. It may be hard to believe, but it’s true. I think that’s exactly right. A lot of people seem to enjoy bragging about how little allowance they pay, but I think the only people who can make things work with a low allowance are those with celebrity-level looks or con artists. (By “con artists,” I mean people who are exceptionally smooth talkers. But someone who’s that good at talking can deceive people for life, so in a sense, they really are con artists.) And even if you pay the amount your partner asks for, that simply becomes average—the bare minimum. If you only do what’s expected, you’re no different from all the other papas, so nothing special develops. The moment you do even one thing they dislike, you’ll become someone they can easily cut off. By offering more than they’re asking for, you set yourself apart from all the other papas and become someone special. Once you’ve become that special person, even ordinary treatment makes you a special papa. If you think that isn’t a genuine relationship of trust, you’re simply being cheap. Unless you happen to meet someone particularly unusual, you’ve already won their heart. Of course, some women care only about money, so you need to judge each person carefully. But I think it can be effective with reasonably ordinary women, so it’s worth trying. Naturally, you don’t need to overextend yourself. If you don’t have much money, keep improving your own strengths within your means. Eventually, you should be able to find a good partner who’s happy with an ordinary allowance, so keep working at it for about ten years as training. People without money having to invest time and effort instead is simply the way of the world.

As someone who was wandering around until quite recently, unable to maintain a polished relationship, I’ll humbly offer my answer. First, let me nitpick. You say you’re taking this “seriously,” but that’s absolutely hilarious. Look up “seriously” in the “Joe Dictionary,” and it comes out as “putting your life on the line.” You may say, “That’s bananas—no, that’s ridiculous,” but a real sword is a sword, and if you swing it, someone bleeds. That’s why it means risking your life. And people who are truly putting their lives on the line probably don’t use this anonymous Q&A site. So if you’re the only one taking this “seriously,” you look about as ridiculous as Don Quixote. I can understand how you feel, but first, stop grandly spouting nonsense like “I’m taking this seriously” and relax a little. The difficulty of relationships between men and women isn’t limited to dating clubs. Trust—and relationships between people in general—can’t be built overnight. In a sense, dating clubs can actually be easier to understand because both sides’ goals are clear. Many female members are looking for an allowance, while male members are looking for intimacy, so my view is that once their interests align, it’s relatively easy to build a good relationship. The reason you haven’t met your ideal partner is because you’re being stingy with the allowance. I’m saying this definitively. Of course, stay within what you can afford, but try offering an allowance that exceeds what your partner is asking for. You’ll be able to start building trust from that very day. It may be hard to believe, but it’s true.

Judging from the wording of your question, you seem to have difficulty communicating through words. Could it be that you’re finding life somewhat hard to navigate? We occasionally receive questions like, “Are there any women who are ~?” But please take a moment to think it through calmly. Even if such a woman exists, you can’t meet her through a dating club unless the man makes an offer and she accepts it. To explain it more simply, suppose someone asked, “Can I meet a woman who has a mole under both arms?” Universe Club may have a female member with moles under both arms, but that detail isn’t listed in her profile. So, you would only be able to meet her if you happened to get the chance to view her profile, made her an offer, had dinner with her, and everything proceeded smoothly. She might be registered as a secret member, your membership periods might not overlap, she might belong to a class you can’t view, or she might have a dating type, age, or location that you don’t look for. That’s why asking, “Are there any women who are ~?” is nonsensical. If you’re asking whether it’s possible to meet someone through a dating club and eventually develop a one-on-one relationship, then the chances are probably higher than in everyday life, since dating clubs provide more opportunities for romantic encounters.