I’m so depressed because I’m not getting any offers.

Don’t compare yourself to other people. There will always be someone above you and someone below you. The women soliciting on the streets around Toyoko, for example, are getting about 15,000 yen. Just getting accepted by a club, being able to do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), and having a papa (a male supporter) who gives you 40,000 yen is pretty decent. It’s also disrespectful to women who aren’t getting any offers at all. If you meet a papa who gives you 40,000 yen, try your best to keep the arrangement going. Words limit your actions. Even if it’s a lie, saying that you’re doing well can turn your luck around. But people who keep saying, “I’m no good, I’m no good,” usually stay that way.

Being able to play the “I want to die” card over the slightest thing is a privilege of youth, but even so, this is definitely not the time to play it. If you became so pessimistic over not getting any offers through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) that you died, that would be an awfully dull life. It simply means papa-katsu wasn’t where you belonged, so try something else.

If the person asking really is in their 20s as they claim, I have one piece of advice. Your 20s are, by any measure, the morning of your life. It’s the time to prepare, and you should have plenty to do before lunchtime. You don’t have time to be wasting away! Pull yourself together!

> The club staff are cold even when I go in for an interview. Really? Does that actually happen? If it’s Universe Club, it’s essentially a service business, so I don’t think they would be cold toward women. Also, isn’t the interview something you only do once per club? Do you mean you’ve gone to interviews at several clubs, and they were cold everywhere you went? > Successful papa-katsu participants are driving Lamborghinis and living glamorous lives. Huh??? Women aren’t referred to as “p,” so are you talking about male members? Even among the male members, I don’t think there are that many people driving Lamborghinis. Maybe I just haven’t come across them. I haven’t seen many women bragging about their cars either. Is there some kind of one-upmanship competition going on around Minato Ward? Besides, if you’ve actually seen a Lamborghini, you probably know this, but I think they’re difficult for women to get in and out of. That shouldn’t matter if you don’t wear skirts, though. Maybe you mean one of Lamborghini’s SUVs? There are various Lamborghini models, so it’s hard to tell what you mean unless you specify the model. > How can I do papa-katsu more positively? I think the best thing is not to compare yourself with or look into what other people are doing. That way, you won’t find out that an allowance of 30,000–40,000 yen is considered low, and if you don’t think it’s low, you’ll probably feel better about it. There’s even a song called “Walk with Your Head Held High.”

It’s perfectly normal to get several offers at first and then hardly receive any afterward—I think that’s the case for many women. There’s no need to put yourself down. To enjoy papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) positively, you also need to be receiving positive attention outside the club. I think this applies to men to some extent as well, not just women.

This time, I felt your post was actually phrased as a question, so I’ll answer it. First of all, I found your victim mentality off-putting—treating it as “being attacked by haters” whenever someone calls you out for posting a monologue. At least personally, I wouldn’t want to date someone with such a negative mindset, even if I were giving them an allowance. I’d avoid someone like that even as a casual sex partner, since I feel they’d attract bad energy. And having sex without a condom is out of the question because of the risk of STIs. I believe dating should be with someone who has a sense of cleanliness, both mentally and physically. I think negative thinking begins with comparing yourself to other people.