I’d like to ask: If we meet, have tea, get intimate, eat dinner, and spend six or seven hours together, what would be a reasonable allowance?

Honestly, that’s a long time. But to be honest, I guess it depends on the amount. Though, more than the money, it’s the time… I suppose I wouldn’t mind staying longer as long as I don’t get tired, but I like being alone, so even four hours is exhausting for me. Just like Maezawa-san, I always say, “See you next time ♥,” even when I don’t really mean it. If you take that seriously, the long-term arrangements might suddenly disappear, and you’d be left wondering, “Why? Why??” Being around people can be tiring sometimes, so if I wasn’t feeling well that day, I’d probably put it off by thinking, “I don’t mind being with this person, but I always end up staying too long.” I said goodbye to two people last month. I think they were both in their sixties. I’m willing to adjust the amount, but I’d like the time to be shorter.

We’re around the same age, so I’ll give you a straight answer. It’s too little. Why? Because you yourself feel that it’s too little. And asking other people about it while ignoring your own situation is just painfully uncool. Once you’re over 60, double it. That’s what I’ve been doing since turning 60.

> The girl always says “thank you,” and she’s never complained. You should be careful, because taking those words at face value can sometimes come back to bite you. Of course, I assume you’re worried about whether your allowance is appropriate precisely because you understand that. A woman may say something like, “Thank you. I’m looking forward to seeing you again,” but if she’s dissatisfied, she may simply stop making plans for future dates or suddenly stop responding. Sometimes women are just putting up with things. Men who don’t understand that often end up having no idea why the woman stops seeing them. Now, as for the main point: You ask how much would be appropriate, but you don’t mention how much allowance you’re currently giving her. That makes you come across as a little sly—or perhaps just stingy. Going by the way you phrased the question, I’d say an appropriate amount would be roughly twice what you’re currently giving her. My guess is that, regardless of how much time you spend together, you’ve set the allowance based on what you researched. That’s probably why you’re wondering whether it might be too little. The amount you found online was likely intended for a date lasting two or three hours, ending when you part ways. If you’re going on long dates, I think you should give her a little more. In that case, twice your current allowance would probably be appropriate. If you don’t want to do that, it may be better to end things after a more typical-length date. That said, if she genuinely likes you, she may be satisfied with the current allowance, so there’s no way to reach a definite conclusion. Still, since it’s too late once she’s already walked away, I think it would be better to make it twice as much.

Once I’ve agreed on a pay-per-meeting allowance at the outset, I generally keep it fixed. I don’t like thinking in terms of an hourly rate or assigning a price tag to each type of date, so I’m not compatible with women who approach the relationship that way. If someone doesn’t want to spend a long time together under this arrangement, they’ll probably suggest meeting and parting at times that naturally keep the date shorter when you make plans. If you go along with that, I don’t think they’ll feel dissatisfied. On the other hand, someone who genuinely looks forward to seeing me will adjust her schedule so we can meet as early as possible that day—I don’t think she’s doing that because she expects more money. If they seem like someone you can speak openly with, it might be worth discussing it honestly. And if you feel comfortable giving a little more and can afford it, I think it’s fine to do so.

I think it depends on what the date involves, not how much time it takes. If she’s enjoying herself without any stress, there’s no need to worry about it. But if you feel that you’re deciding what to do based on your own convenience and putting a burden on her, you should increase her allowance.

It’s usually four hours, so it is a long time, but it really depends on the woman. Why not feel things out and see? If you’re not careful and she’s just putting up with it, she might suddenly end things and block your messages. With Fuu, it varies. Some women spend about two hours at a hotel for an adult relationship (intimate) only, while others go on a date first and then stay overnight. I guess it depends on the person...

For a two-hour coffee meet: 1 For a two-hour adult relationship (intimate): 5 For a two-hour meal: 1 So around 7 in total would probably be the going rate. Of course, it also depends on the questioner’s financial situation and how popular the woman is. If she’s a highly sought-after woman with a premium attached, then: Two-hour coffee meet: 2 Two-hour adult relationship (intimate): 12 Two-hour meal: 2 So I’d expect it to be around 16. Six to seven hours is incredibly long for a date, so I imagine the total would be about what I listed above.

It depends on the woman and on the kind of relationship you have. The key question is whether she’s spending her time in a way she genuinely enjoys. Is she the type who calculates everything by the hour, or does she act naturally? If she feels more comfortable with a man than in a large group, prefers spending time one-on-one, and enjoys quiet, relaxed places more than crowded, lively ones, then if she receives an allowance and gets along well with the man, she can keep doing things she enjoys in a comfortable setting without spending her own money. So rather than just having dinner or drinks, you can continue visiting several places she wants to go. For example, you might have lunch, go to a hotel, and then, if she feels like it, have dinner. After that, you could see a movie if the timing works, visit a bar or two, go karaoke, or stop by GU or Don Quijote. Even if you spend that much time together, the allowance doesn’t change, since you’re accommodating her preferences. If you feel she deserves a little more, you could give her the change when you go for dinner, visit the next place, or stop at a convenience store. You could also add the cost of dinner to the allowance. That can help you gauge whether she wants to go for dinner and, if so, what kind of place she has in mind. Whether she pays attention to those things can show you how important the financial aspect is to her—how much consideration you need to give and how relaxed you can be. You can adjust your approach accordingly. That said, women who focus on such details often seem to have a transactional relationship as their basic mindset. On the other hand, although rare, there are relationships where both people can genuinely open up to each other without thinking about things like that. If the woman is the one inviting you out and you aren’t the one initiating plans, I don’t think you need to worry about it too much. If you feel that “more is always better,” then adding one extra unit for every additional hour or every additional place you visit would probably be a smooth approach. Some people feel fulfilled by that, while others feel a sense of emptiness—or that it feels too much like dealing with a professional. I think you should choose whichever option gives you greater satisfaction.

You can see the allowances in the setting data. Since it assumes two hours for dinner followed by two hours of dating, in the questioner’s case, offering a little more might make sense from an hourly-rate perspective. https://analytics.zoho.com/open-view/2073576000022100361