I recently had an adult date with a new woman, and when she undressed, she had severe atopic dermatitis from the neck down. Her profile said she didn’t have atopic dermatitis, though…

Do people say “hanūn” these days? I thought it was “ahhan, uh-huh.” It does have a bit of an Islamic vibe to it, but in any case, I suppose times change. There are all sorts of things: atopic dermatitis, rough skin, thinking someone has a large bust only to find out it’s artificial, or assuming someone is the demure type only to discover she’s a scammer targeting generous men. Even at a dating club that claims to be straightforward, if a woman cancels on the day, they may come out with some ridiculous suggestion like, “We can introduce you to another woman who’s available today.” When all is said and done, it’s basically amateur-style prostitution, so anyone who takes things at face value and gets fooled has only themselves to blame. So, what was that woman actually like? What were her personality, character, and attitude toward meeting someone? Unless you have a fetish where atopic dermatitis is an absolute deal-breaker, there must have been something about her, right? A long time ago, there was a woman who had a midline surgical scar when she undressed. She was attractive, but I ended up losing my erection and couldn’t go through with it. I still remember her turning her head to the side while in the missionary position and saying matter-of-factly, “I suppose you’re right. A woman like me isn’t good enough, is she?” The reason I lost my erection wasn’t the scar. It was her detached attitude. I could sense that she had already given up on ever being understood and had closed herself off. I felt that there was something wrong with me getting aroused for someone like that. I didn’t dislike her, though, and I sometimes think that if we had been able to have sex properly, we might have developed a good relationship and she might have gained some confidence. I felt inadequate for being unable to reach out and change how she felt. I still regret it whenever I remember. Have you seen the movie *Slumdog Millionaire*? I love the final scene where the protagonist kisses the scar on the woman’s face. There was a whole history and a depth of feeling behind that gesture, which is why I believe it’s important to get to know someone first if you want to meet a person like that. That’s my “way of enjoying” dating clubs, seeing them as something different from amateur-style prostitution. I hope this is helpful to the person who asked the question and to everyone else reading this. Merry Christmas! Taro

Hmm... If someone had severe atopic dermatitis from the neck down, you’d normally notice it during the interview, so it seems like something that could reasonably have been mentioned in the comments. But the fact that they wrote “hanoon” makes me think they just happened to see an article about the Hanoon Summit and wanted to try using the term. That makes it more likely that the question itself isn’t particularly serious. In the first place, asking whether this should be reported to the staff is a nonsensical question. It also gives the impression that the person doesn’t normally communicate with the staff at all. Is the person asking this question just generally kind of hopeless...?

LOL, there are so many things to question here. I don’t think profiles include whether someone has atopic dermatitis or not... Would a club really accept someone with symptoms that severe? If it were widespread and serious, they might be able to cover it on their face with makeup, but they couldn’t hide it on their scalp, behind their ears, or at the nape of their neck. I feel like the club probably wouldn’t accept them... Also, what does “hanūn” even mean? It’s kind of gross... You should probably tell the club. If you’re not going to see her again, does it really matter? If she gets another offer, I feel like both the papa and the woman would end up unhappy... Something about this feels like a lie. My guess is that she’s actually a street prostitute or a sex worker, lol. If it’s true, sorry for being suspicious.

Rather than answering directly, I’ll share my impressions after reading your question. “Dad, I’m so pathetic I could cry.” — Eishin Higashino Just because it’s free doesn’t mean you can ask absolutely anything, you know.

The world will keep turning even if you don’t force yourself to ask questions. Also, I don’t think communicating in your own made-up terms while ignoring the other person is a good approach. As for the question, if I notice anything inaccurate in someone’s profile, I make a point of reporting it. Of course, everyone has their own opinions, so I think you should act according to what you believe is right.

I think there’s a much higher chance of that woman reading this and realizing it’s about her than if you simply reported it to the staff. You’d think that would be easy enough to figure out, so I don’t understand why you’d go out of your way to ask about it here. The most obvious explanation is that she had a bad experience with that woman over something else and posted this out of spite—but can it really be that simple? It sounds like a child getting revenge.