What do you all think of men who suggest going to their place for an adult relationship (intimate) after dinner on the first meeting, saying things like, “I live nearby” or “I’m a germaphobe, so I can’t do hotels”…?

I don’t think that’s such an unusual way of thinking. The advantages are: 1. It’s easier to make excuses if someone sees you. 2. It costs less. And when it comes to cleanliness, love hotels can indeed feel unsettling and dirty because you don’t know how they’re cleaned. Even business hotels aren’t necessarily trustworthy. I feel safest with beds and towels that I manage myself. I haven’t used a love hotel or a business hotel for about two years. They aren’t my home, but I’ve been using a specially rented apartment and a room in a condo I bought for that purpose from the very first meeting. The only downsides are cleaning and washing the towels and sheets every time.

You made the right call by turning him down. Even from another man’s perspective, he sounds scary.

It’s been a while. Going to someone’s home for the first meeting… I’ve never heard of that happening. Whether he wanted to save on the hotel cost or intended to keep you confined at home, either way, it’s a frightening story. You didn’t actually go, did you? Just because he’s a Universe member doesn’t mean you can let your guard down—you could end up in a terrible situation. These days, it’s not just business owners who register; plenty of ordinary office workers do too, so make sure you judge people carefully. Nana Ayase ♡

What is he thinking? Men can feel uncomfortable revealing their private lives to someone they’ve just met for the first time, too.

That’s scary. If he seemed fairly normal, that makes it even more concerning. The only option is to turn him down. If this happened through this club, please don’t forget to give the club feedback so that no other female member has to go through the same thing...

I believe bringing someone to your home from the very first meeting was prohibited. That said, this only applied to the dining portion arranged by Universe. The rule was simply that you couldn’t skip the restaurant and take her straight home—or, of course, straight to a hotel room. I’m not entirely sure whether going to your home after the meal was also prohibited. However, from a woman’s perspective, being taken home after dinner can put her in a situation where, even though it’s supposed to be a free relationship, she may find it difficult to say no. At worst, couldn’t that amount to being held against her will? So even if it wasn’t explicitly prohibited, I do think taking someone home on the first meeting is problematic, and the club should at least be able to warn the man. > “I turned him down because going to someone’s home after only meeting a few times would be scary, let alone on the first meeting.” That’s a perfectly normal reaction, so you don’t need to worry about offending the club in the future. If you feel scared, I think it’s fine to say no. In fact, I think refusing would be the normal thing to do. > “I’m a germaphobe, so I can’t go to hotels.” I think that’s just an excuse. Of course, there are people with severe germ-related anxieties—people who can’t touch train handrails, or who insist that movers wear gloves because they feel contaminated if someone touches their belongings with bare hands. So I suppose some people really might be unable to go to hotels. Unfortunately, though, I don’t think people with such special needs are suited to using a dating club. I mean that in the sense that they’re unable to consider the other person’s feelings instead of thinking only about themselves. If they insist on going to their own home, there are many different kinds of services and professions these days, so I think they should call a professional woman instead. Of course, if someone first meets a woman for dinner five or ten times, builds a relationship of trust, and then invites her home in a way that doesn’t make her uncomfortable, I think that should be up to them.

I think it’s pretty rare for someone to invite you to their home on the first meeting. Especially when the reason is that hotels are out of the question. Does that mean even the Okura or Hilton won’t work?

I’ve had two women invite me back to my place on the very first day we met. Both were Type B. They both said, “I don’t like love hotels because they’re dirty.” Are these two women just crazy?

I’m curious what everyone else thinks? Well, if I had to answer, I’d say you seem like the type who’s willing to take on challenges.