My married papa (a male supporter) of two years told me, “I don’t want to pay you anymore. You wouldn’t see me if there were no money involved, right?” Well, obviously.

I think he’s taking a gamble, thinking, “Let’s make this the last time.” It sounds like the relationship is coming to an end. If he were single, that would be one thing, but he’s married, so it feels pretty selfish, doesn’t it? ( ; ; ) Time to move on!!

To put it bluntly, he’s definitely an idiot. That said, I’m one of them too, so I can understand where that papa is coming from. Your anger is completely understandable, but if you want to continue, please try to be a little forgiving. Of course, you shouldn’t meet him without an allowance, but since it’s lasted two years, maybe you’re not necessarily incompatible on a personal level? Don’t you think that’s important in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)?

I don’t say things like that to someone I’m seeing, and I don’t feel that way. I think it’s time to end things when I start begrudging the allowance. People who constantly beg for sympathy or validation are selfish too.

Yeah, yeah, he’s an idiot. You should tell him something like, “Wake up, you damn old fool!” My condolences.

You did your best. It was probably just a casual way of saying goodbye, so blow off some steam, forget about it, and move on.

It’s probably time to call it quits. As a papa, I don’t think he’d be that blunt unless you’re someone he’d be fine with losing. Biologically speaking, men tend to get tired of a woman—especially sex—around that point, so perhaps this is simply the limit. It can’t be helped. End things and wait for an offer from your next fresh papa.

I hear stories like that from time to time, so if you include the ones who don’t say anything, there may actually be quite a lot of them. Men can be dreamers, though, and apparently some of them start developing genuine feelings along the way. I suppose it comes from believing they’re attractive and popular. At first, it starts with, “She’s only seeing me because I have money,” but eventually it turns into, “Maybe she’d still see me even if I didn’t have money?” And somewhere along the way, they seem to start taking it seriously. It’s basically a kind of adolescent delusion, but I think it’s better to interact with most men while assuming they have at least some tendency to think that way. There seem to be many cases of stalking these days, too. (Although I don’t hear about it much at Universe.) Some men even think, “Maybe she likes me,” just because a woman at a convenience store smiled while giving them their change. It’s a little scary, but it may be necessary to take precautions—such as not revealing more personal information than needed—while assuming that’s just how some people are. > “I don’t want to pay anymore. You wouldn’t see me if there were no money involved, would you?” How about turning it around by saying, “Then I’d like you to have a notarized will drawn up, leaving me all your assets”? Of course, even if he leaves you “everything,” his wife and others may have a reserved share of the inheritance, so in reality, half of it could still go to them. But if they don’t claim their reserved share, there’s still a possibility you could receive everything. Since the will is supposedly his expression of love, though, you’d have to stay with him until the very end.