I have absolutely no desire to get married, and I don’t want a boyfriend either. I’ve been doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) for about five years. Having a papa (a male supporter) who doesn’t tie me down and fulfills me both emotionally and financially is the most comfortable lifestyle for me.

Why not make your papa happy? If you prefer older men to guys your own age, and don’t have much desire to get married, it might reassure your papa if you make that clear so things don’t get too serious. If you’re better at acting, you could say something like, “I feel so comfortable spending time with you,” and give him a hug. He might be completely won over.

While everyone else is struggling to find a good papa, it’s wonderful that you’re in a papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) arrangement that fulfills you both emotionally and financially. As for your answer, why not just say: “I feel more fulfilled with my papa than with my boyfriend.”

You can answer it as is. From a papa’s perspective, you want her to feel that there’s a benefit to meeting you. So if you replace “boyfriend” with “another papa,” it becomes: “I can’t be bothered to meet other papas, and I don’t want to, either.” So I wouldn’t take it badly. I think the same could sometimes apply to female friends, too. Even with female friends, your interests don’t always line up perfectly—what you want to do, where you want to go, what you want to eat, or even the conversations you have. For women who know what life is like with papa-katsu, the differences are likely to be even more noticeable. If papa-katsu lets you do everything you enjoy, it can have a pretty strong influence. You sometimes see young women or men dining alone at high-end restaurants. Well, their young friends probably wouldn’t go to places like that. People who want to go seem to prefer going alone and focusing on enjoying their meal. (That seems to apply regardless of age or gender.) So when you’re doing papa-katsu, that gap grows even wider. With female friends, you have to split the bill, and if you’re tagging along to a place you don’t really want to go, the conversation may not be that engaging either—so sometimes you end up leaving because you’re bored.

You could just answer with the opening paragraph as is. It’s incredibly persuasive. In terms of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), she sounds like the ideal woman. Changing the subject, during a late-night exchange around 2 a.m., she said she wanted to meet before an important event and feel fulfilled. I replied, “I’ll fill you up on both sides!” and she came back with, “Is that a dirty joke? lol” What was that about? Was the Cosmo Oil commercial a dirty joke all along?!?? In my experience, there always seems to be one round of crossed wires before you develop a good relationship. I wonder why~ lol Taro