I told the person I’m seeing that I wanted to stop by their workplace to see them while they were working, but they turned me down. Is it generally considered unwelcome to visit someone at their part-time job?

When I owned a Magic Mirror van, I once drove it up in front of a college student’s part-time job at a pizza place and had sex with her from behind while naked, letting her coworkers watch through the windows. She got really wet and excited. I did something similar in front of an office worker’s company on her day off. I do have women I genuinely like, too.

If you’ve gotten pretty close, they may invite you over for a meal.

I think most people would dislike a papa coming to their workplace or home. That’s probably because the relationship hasn’t reached that level yet. Once you’ve built a deeper relationship, it might become more like, “Sure, you can come see me,” if the other person brings it up. The fact that you brought it up yourself without waiting for that point makes me feel that the relationship still hasn’t really been established. That said, in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I think many people believe it’s better not to reach that level in the first place. The allowance may be intended precisely to keep things from progressing that far. Either way, there’s no need to ask about it here. If she turned you down, you should simply accept that and adjust your thinking. Instead, you seem to be thinking, “I’m not wrong—the other person is strange. Maybe someone on this Q&A site will agree with me.” That makes you seem like someone who wouldn’t be capable of a long-term arrangement. It also seems perfectly reasonable for her to think, “Who knows what will happen later if I teach this person where I work or live?” So rather than asking here, I think you should place more weight on what the woman herself has said. By the way, did you happen to come up with this question about what’s “一般的” because one of the earlier answers mentioned what is generally the case? If so, that means the same person has been posting all the questions lately. Honestly, I feel that because this person keeps clinging to the site, ordinary users can no longer post questions. If you think you’re being helpful because no one else would ask questions unless you did, you’re seriously mistaken.

A papa-katsu girl said she wanted to visit the company where the questioner works, lol. Could you say, “Sure, sure, come visit sometime,” lol? That’s terrifying! No way, no way, no way, no way. It’s the same thing, right? lol

If you were married, you’d probably hate it if the other woman came to your house.

Saying “I want to go see her” would be strange. If she invites you to come, then you can simply go as a regular customer. As you grow closer, with women from a dating club, you may naturally end up spending time with or being introduced to their friends and family. They might also say, “I started a new part-time job (or event)—do you want to come (eat there)?” You may even end up doing most of the things couples normally do. Otherwise, it’s better not to have any contact in everyday life.

Since everyone’s views and relationships vary so much, I don’t think there’s any general rule. Personally, I try not to ask about things that I feel might make the other person uncomfortable. I’ve only ever gone when I was invited.