Earlier, I asked whether I should mention in my feedback form when a date with a gentleman lasts more than four hours.

Four hours is only a general guideline. The reason I use four hours as a benchmark isn’t that five hours is necessarily unacceptable, but that spending five hours with someone you’re meeting for the first time would probably be exhausting. So if it’s five or six hours—or even longer—I’d consider that something to be cautious about. That said, four and a half hours seems reasonably possible. If it’s around four and a half hours, I might feel that it’s not quite worth reporting to the club, but you’re still absolutely welcome to report it. If it’s five hours or more, you can send a report either if you want them to take cautionary action or if you simply want it documented. However, be aware that some staff members are extremely biased in favor of men. I may have mentioned this before, but there was a kind woman who sent a message along the lines of: “He kept me out until the middle of the night—about six hours, I think—and we didn’t part ways until 2 a.m. or so. He didn’t even cover my taxi fare. But I handled everything properly, so I did a good job, right?” I really did think she had done a great job. But one staff member who liked the man saw the message and immediately labeled her a “complainer” in a section visible only to staff, then hid her from the member list without saying anything to her. (In other words, she stopped receiving any offers from then on.) Things like that do occasionally happen, so you do need to be somewhat careful. The key is to stick to the facts and describe them as calmly and objectively as possible.

By the way, you’re the same woman who wrote about being forced to have anal sex: “I want to inform the male members that anal sex is not something they should force...” 2023/06/27 09:33 Female Unanswered Universe female member https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/15611 You’re the same person, right? > Since I’m asking this over 5G without using Wi-Fi, my member ID might be different from the previous question. It looks like your ID hasn’t changed. What’s strange, though, is that it’s different from the ID on the question before 15611: https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/15608 I wonder why. Did you post 15608 and 15611 using different internet connections?

As I mentioned in my previous answer, four hours is only a rough guideline. I tried putting myself in the staff member’s shoes. If I had some free time, I’d probably think, “Oh, so this is what it’s like on site.” But if I were busy, I’d just skip over it. If I kept receiving answers like that, I’d probably get tired of them and stop reading.

If you’re going to share a report, the content matters more than the amount of time. In my experience, for people who didn’t continue, the first meeting usually lasted around 1 to 2.3 hours on average—sometimes as short as 20 minutes, and rarely more than about 4 hours. For people who ended up continuing, it was more like 2.3 to 4.5 hours on average, and sometimes as long as half a day. Men don’t want to waste time either, so getting home early isn’t necessarily a bad thing. They can take care of other errands or get back to work sooner. It’s not just women who may feel the time is too long—the man you’re meeting may also be getting impatient or inconvenienced. And even if it doesn’t lead to a continued arrangement, you could look at it as spending that time allowed both of you to make an informed decision—and meant you didn’t have to meet again. Also, if someone isn’t used to these clubs, they often don’t make plans after the date. So if you both get along well, it’s perfectly natural for the time to pass more quickly than expected.

I deleted my previous answer and moved it here. The four-hour duration for a first date is only a guideline. As long as both people agree, any length of time is fine. I negotiate the time commitment and allowance as a package. If the date runs longer, I add to the allowance. Since it’s a survey, I think you should simply answer honestly based on what you think. That said, it’s best not to do anything that hasn’t been mutually agreed upon. And if you feel the man may be inconsiderate, it’s better to decide on an end time in advance. (I always confirm the end time with the woman before making plans.)

If you’re not comfortable with it, you don’t have to write that. But if you don’t want to, you should say so. If you’re worried about it taking too long, just let him know beforehand, assuming a four-hour limit: “I have plans, so I’ll need to leave by [time]…” Be careful, though—if you don’t say you’re uncomfortable, that can become the default for this kind of arrangement. And why go to a café after dinner? That part is definitely strange. Personally, I think he should just check whether you can go straight to a hotel…