I’m the one who asked for advice about my papa (a male supporter) finding a favorite.

Personally, I find questioners who act that way incredibly cute. It makes my mouth water.

Asking with the willingness to break up means that if you find out you’re no longer his number one, you’ll walk away cleanly. Men tend to run when they’re pursued, and chase when they’re the ones being left behind. If you had said, “So you’ve found someone you like more than me, and I’m not your number one anymore. I understand. Let’s break up,” you might have become his number one again. That’s because men can feel an enormous sense of loss. He might have chased after you with incredible determination as you walked away, and in the process, he may have desperately reassessed your value and chosen to prioritize you over the other woman who had taken the top spot. However, judging from your question, it seems that didn’t happen. Please break up with him now. Sometimes, you have to let go in order to find a way forward.

A girl from Universe Club whom I met for the first time last week came to me for advice. She’s terrified that her “kare-P” (half boyfriend, half papa) is about to dump her, and she doesn’t know what to do. My advice was: - Cut back on how often she contacts her kare-P. - Find another papa. - Get a boyfriend around her own age. Other than that, I’m just listening to her. I really do understand how painful it is—I’m currently dealing with the same kind of consultation myself. That said, Mac-san’s analysis was spot-on. I don’t think the questioner is actually “in love” with him. If she really loved him, wouldn’t she be unable to accept the existence of other women besides herself?

There’s a term called “fear of abandonment.” It comes up in discussions of borderline personality disorder, but setting that aside for now: Why does it have to be number one? The questioner says she “likes” her papa, but is that really “like” in the ordinary sense of the word? Put extremely, isn’t it more like, “I can’t be satisfied unless this papa devotes his entire life to me”? If so, the cause may lie in the questioner’s distorted relationships with other people. Unless she takes a hard look at that first, she won’t be able to find happiness. I once had a partner who was similar. She had apparently been abused by her parents. Maybe that was the cause. Her fear of abandonment was very strong, and just like the questioner, she told me, “It’s okay if you have other girls, but I can’t stand not being your number one.” Since I always paid a flat 50,000-yen allowance, she seemed to maintain her emotional stability by becoming the girl I went on dates with most often each month. Put that way, it may sound as if she was extremely fond of me, but I don’t think that was really the case. I don’t think she felt toward me what I would define as “love” or “liking.” Let me ask the questioner one more question: Do you really like that papa? I mentioned borderline personality disorder at the beginning, and apparently, for people with BPD, other people are classified as either “enemies or slaves”—not “enemies or allies.” Either someone who gives everything to them, or someone who doesn’t. Because they have no “allies,” I suspect people like that may remain lonely forever. Does any of this sound familiar to you? I hope it doesn’t.

Even with papa-katsu, do I really have to be someone’s number one? If we’re having fun together, isn’t that enough…? Does the person asking not have any other papas? If you do, why not switch to thinking that you don’t necessarily have to be number one? After all, this is a relationship involving money, so even if you become someone’s number one, there’s still that aspect to consider… Do you yourself really rank all your papas so clearly? lol Fuu tries to focus on the good points of each of my monthly arrangement partners: - A woman with a pretty face, a great figure, and good physical compatibility - A woman who’s enthusiastic about sex and is open to trying different things - A devoted, calm, and refined woman I enjoy each relationship for its own unique qualities—a sort of collection, I guess lol Maybe next time I’d like someone with short hair and a slender figure. Or perhaps next time, someone with long hair and a slightly curvier figure. Why not build your own collection and enjoy it? A papa collection ↓ The handsome older-guy type, the muscular type, the good-conversation type, the one who’s mainly there for the money, or the ordinary type like Fuu lol And so on lol This is a world where you can do that, after all… Limiting yourself to just one person seems like such a waste… When you think of it that way, being number one just sounds like extra pressure and a hassle.

The answer may actually be hidden in the question itself. Following the advice given in response to her previous question, she asked her papa (a male supporter) about something that had been bothering her. She was shocked by his answer, but as she suspects, there’s a good chance her guess was right on the mark. What she should do now isn’t easy to decide. One clue is that she says, “I could handle it if I were number one.” Personally, I think that would only create a whole new set of worries. My answer doesn’t offer any real solution, but properly recognizing the situation and sorting out her feelings should help guide her next move. She’s young—everything is an experience, after all.