It’s been quite a while since the term papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) came into use, and I feel like the good papas (male supporters) have already been snapped up by high-quality girls. Are there still any generous (well-paying), clean-cut papas left on the market?

I haven’t been looking for a monthly arrangement or new favorite women for several years now. Since renewing my membership this year, I haven’t had any offer dates yet. Whether a relationship lasts a long time or only briefly seems to depend on the same factors as romantic relationships. I’ve been with my partners—long-term girlfriends—for decades, so there’s no sign of those relationships ending anytime soon. The same goes for my favorite women from the club, including those whose businesses are now doing well enough that they shouldn’t need an allowance anymore. Recently, I went to a hotel with a long-term girlfriend whom I’d avoided taking to hotels during the pandemic. It was wonderfully relaxed. Sex with a partner is especially nice after refraining from it for such a long time because of the pandemic. Also, both my partners and my favorite women from the club made their decisions on the very first day we met, and those relationships have continued to this day. So I believe first impressions are extremely important.

It’s been seven years with my favorite papa (a male supporter), and five years with my extremely generous (well-paying) papa. They probably see other women occasionally without me knowing, but judging by how often we meet, I still feel like I’m their main partner. They’re both good papas for me, and the years have gone by without me finding anyone better. Especially with my extremely generous papa, we gradually started seeing each other more often. Now he’s bought a condo in my name, and we’re together so much that it’s honestly annoying—I can’t get a boyfriend my own age. It’s the worst. My favorite papa of seven years was in his 40s when we met and was one of the younger men who made me an offer. Now he’s fully grown into a distinguished, attractive man in his 50s. We’re still very much in love, and even on days we can’t meet, we’re in touch almost every day. I love him so much that I’ve actually woken up terrified from dreams about us breaking up. It really makes me feel like there are relationships where neither person can let go of the other. That’s how things are for me, so I personally assume that I’ve got a firm hold on my good papas. Unfortunately, though, I haven’t had any new encounters.

I’m still regularly looking for women. I get fewer offers than when I first started, but I still make an offer about once every few months.

I feel like when people say on apps that they’re “going to focus on just one person,” it’s usually only lip service, regardless of whether they’re male or female. So I think it’s best to always keep an eye out for a good match. Of course, you should continue with the club, but it’s also a good idea to create opportunities to meet wealthy people outside the club. All the high-level people I know personally were people I met outside the club. And unless it’s a salon, clubs don’t limit the number of people you can meet, so you might find a new, great papa (a male supporter) in addition to the good papa you already have! Another option is to nurture a promising relationship yourself. In any case, I think the most important thing is to increase your opportunities to meet people.

It seems to have been about ten years since the term papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) was coined. Is that related in any way to the idea that “the good papas have already been claimed by high-level girls”? The reason I ask is that people join and leave Universe Club, so the membership is constantly changing. The questioner defines a good papa as someone who offers a decent allowance and has a clean, well-groomed appearance, but that doesn’t necessarily apply to people who joined a long time ago. There are probably also people who joined recently and offer a decent allowance while maintaining a clean, well-groomed appearance. Besides, this definition of a good papa is extremely vague because it isn’t quantified. “High-level girls” is vague as well. Every man has different tastes, so a woman whom Man A considers high-level may not seem that way to Man B. It’s relatively uncommon for a man who meets a male friend accompanied by his partner to look at her and think she’s especially high-level. When the questioner refers to a “monthly partner,” I assume they mean someone they meet regularly—but how often counts as regularly? Once a year could be considered regular, as could once a month. The question seems to have been written with some thought behind it, but I found it rather incoherent. As for what I think the questioner probably wanted to know: I’m satisfied with my current partner, so I haven’t made any offers for the past year and a half. Since the membership fee is going to waste, I’m considering either leaving soon or downgrading to the Gold class and remaining a member.

Bottom line: I think even the good papas are often looking for a regular partner. Since women tend to be young and go through many life changes, a lot of them quit papa-katsu or end the relationship after a few months to a few years. There are all kinds of reasons women leave: getting a boyfriend, getting married, starting a job, changing jobs, moving, going abroad, or quitting papa-katsu altogether… Three years is considered a long time. Most arrangements don’t even last a year, and whenever one ends, the papas come back here to look for a new regular partner—in other words, they make a new offer. There are also plenty of male members who continue seeing their current regular partner but still look around, thinking they might find someone even better. Most of these male papas are successful people who earn enough to spend money here. They’re highly motivated and have the ability to pursue and obtain what they want. Eventually, the men may lose interest too. In biology, this is called the Coolidge effect, which is linked to reproductive instincts. The dopamine-fueled excitement is cut in half after six months and runs its course after about three years. They start wanting to pass on their genes to someone else, so other women can suddenly look incredibly attractive lol. It’s simply a biological phenomenon. In Fuu’s case, I’ve had regular partners for five and three years. In the five-year case, it wasn’t just her face, appearance, and physical compatibility—her personality was perfect too. She eventually got married and we parted ways, but she still sends me pictures of her child lol. I love her as a person. The regular partner I’ve been seeing for three years now, on the other hand, has a very straightforward personality. But her looks, physical compatibility, and intimacy are so good that I just can’t bring myself to end it. To make it past three years, both sides probably need to have an exceptionally good match in terms of the arrangement. So, since regular partners are usually replaced within about a year, women who are just joining still have plenty of opportunities. New papas are always joining too, so don’t worry.

If “monthly arrangement” means being paid by the month, then I don’t qualify since I generally see five papas on a pay-per-meeting basis. But if it’s okay to call girls I’ve been seeing for over two years as of today “monthly arrangements,” I counted about six. If we lower the bar to six months or more, it’s eight. I see all of them at least four times a month. Even so, three of them have moved on from me this year—because they found jobs or got boyfriends. That’s why I’m always looking for potential candidates or girls who might become one. I even received a reverse offer from someone about two weeks ago, so I made a regular offer through Univa for the first time in a while. She’s B1, so we’re supposed to meet four or five times before that, but we’ve already had two dates. Her story would make for an interesting read if the column section ever comes back—she’s quite unique. Questioner, if you’d be okay with me, feel free to send me a reverse offer. I’ll consider it. By “reverse offer,” I mean that since I’m “Mac” from the Nagoya branch, you search for me, comment “I’m the one who asked the question,” and send me a “You seem wonderful” message. Of the eight girls I’ve been seeing for over two years, two were people I met through reverse offers. For reference, three came through regular offers on Univa, and three through an app. Today, I also went on a first date and had my first adult encounter with a 22-year-old half-Japanese girl I met through an app. She has a slim waist, which is exactly my type, and she’s very responsive, so she’s a strong candidate. With apps, you occasionally come across a real diamond in the rough—maybe one out of every few dozen people. I leave the casual dinner-and-coffee dates to a friend who enjoys them, and if he finds someone who seems like my type, he connects us. All the male staff at Univa should just make it their job to find high-quality girls on apps and register them with Univa.