> What kind of approach would work?
Apparently, once you’re able to climax once, it becomes easier to do so afterward.
So I think it might be best to have sex with a man who’s good at helping women climax. Mac and Dai—and possibly others who come up later—seem to be able to do that, too.
You might want to make them an offer yourself.
By the way, I think pretending to climax is kind of sweet and endearing, but if you say it was because you watched porn, that might make it a little too obvious.
Even if you don’t climax, I think it’s enough if you simply react as though you’re enjoying yourself. Since you’re already able to respond at this stage, you may be fine just continuing as you are.
In that case, even if you don’t climax, simply saying something like, “That felt good,” should be enough—and it wouldn’t really be a lie.
If you don’t feel anything at all, though, I suppose pretending to climax might be your only option. (I imagine women who show no reaction are less likely to be invited again.)
I usually make her orgasm by going down on her while fingering her.
The way she moves when she climaxes from penetration is distinctive, so you can always tell if she’s faking it.
Getting someone to climax from penetration requires the right size and technique, so it’s pretty difficult.
In my case, it’s more like I sometimes achieve it after we’ve done it several times.
If you’re masturbating, I think you’ll have an easier time climaxing with a rotary or a Womanizer than with a vibrator.
If you’d like, please look for “Mac,” a male member registered with the Nagoya branch, leave a comment saying, “I’m the one who asked the question in the Q&A box,” and send him “You’re wonderful.” I’ll consider making you an offer.
I’m currently Gold, but that’s only a temporary status until renewal. Whether the person who asked the question is Platinum or Black, I can upgrade them and make an offer, so there’s no need to worry about that.
When a woman experiences her first internal orgasm, it often happens unexpectedly—not because anything particularly special was done, but in the same situation and with the same movements as usual. Recently, I gave a 20-year-old woman her first internal orgasm after we’d been seeing each other for about six months.
Once you’ve confirmed a certain level of compatibility, I think it tends to happen naturally as you continue seeing each other and become more relaxed together.
Of course, some women never experience an internal orgasm. I’m currently seeing around eight women, and about half of them do. Of those, only about half learned to experience it with me.
I’m the type of papa who enjoys helping a partner develop, but I’m not the kind who aggressively tries to make her climax quickly, so I don’t take an overly forceful approach. In principle, though, I first use my fingers to find exactly where the pleasurable spots are. There really are very specific places where a woman will say, “Yes, right there—pressing there feels so good.” Once you know the location, the idea is simply to have the penis make contact there. You can change positions or place a pillow or towel under her hips to help hit that spot.
There’s also a spot that can cause squirting, but it’s slightly different from the pleasurable spot. So squirting doesn’t necessarily mean she feels good or is having an orgasm. Occasionally, a woman will squirt during penetration and repeated movement, but that’s different from an internal orgasm.
I once wrote about this in a column, but I had one woman who was a virgin and whom I personally helped develop to the point where she experienced around 300 consecutive orgasms in one night. It was an extremely rare success story, but that kind of thing can happen when the chemistry is right.
When it continues that long, it seems as though all her senses go offline. She couldn’t focus her eyes, and at first I wondered what was happening. She really seemed to lose consciousness. Some women continue to have their hands and feet tremble afterward for about 15 minutes. There are many different kinds of internal orgasms.
When I get the feeling that “this woman can experience internal orgasms—she has potential,” I switch into development mode. I don’t force it with women who don’t seem suited to it; I adapt to my partner. Still, even women who used to be uncomfortable with sex seem to gradually come to enjoy it enough to vocalize naturally after continuing for about two years.
The 19-year-old I’m currently living with wasn’t guided to internal orgasms by me, but she experiences around three each time. If you’d like, you can watch from beside us. Seeing someone else experience a real internal orgasm might be helpful for reference.
An internal orgasm may actually be more difficult with a vibrator. It probably feels good, but a clitoral orgasm comes from vibration, whereas an internal orgasm comes from the sensation of being touched in the right place.
When that pleasurable spot is stimulated repeatedly, she may start to feel emotionally overwhelmed and as though she’s about to climax. If the man keeps stimulating the same spot without stopping or changing positions, it seems to connect and build in the brain until she suddenly reaches the point of, “I’m going to climax!” For a woman, I think it’s important not to be afraid of climaxing, but to accept the stimulation and let herself surrender to it.
What you see in adult videos is acting, so I don’t think it’s a good idea to imitate anything too strange.
Some women do react that way, but they’re just copying exaggerated “fake orgasm” performances. To me, it looks rather comical.
I’m a man, so I can only go by what women have told me, but in most cases, I think their first orgasm comes from masturbation.
Women can orgasm even without owning a vibrator, so I don’t think the vibrator itself is the key.
I’d suggest starting by experiencing orgasm through masturbation first.
