Kazu, thank you so much.

“Once the money runs out, so does the relationship” is the rule of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), for better or worse. If someone throws a “pile of crap” at you that leaves you wondering how on earth you’re supposed to deal with it, then as a man, stop paying. As a woman, either stop seeing him because the allowance isn’t enough to deal with it, or suggest raising the allowance and be prepared to let things naturally fade out. I think it’s best to draw the line and move on.

It’s papa-katsu, right? I’ve recently realized that in papa-katsu, you lose the moment you start taking things seriously. To all the men out there: You tell these women you love them, but how much responsibility are you really prepared to take on? What if she genuinely falls for you—and she turns out to be emotionally unstable? You’d be thinking, “Whoa.” She might even try to destroy your family or career. In the worst case, you could be framed as a criminal. With papa-katsu, it’s best to keep a clear boundary. Even if she says she likes you, what she really likes is your money. Most of these women would be fine with anyone as long as he has money—they’ll be intimate with practically anyone. And if a woman starts showing signs that she’s emotionally unwell, the best thing to do is report it to the staff and say goodbye. There are countless other women out there—more than there are men. Move on to the next one.

The part where you say, “At least I didn’t end up being the worst kind of guy” really bothers me. This was a papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) encounter, wasn’t it? Since this is a relationship based on money—just like me—you’re already at the bottom from the very beginning. And by “how low,” I mean you can’t even qualify as the worst kind of guy. You should be more aware of that. Why are you getting so self-satisfied? The reason you can’t be the worst kind of guy is because you’re giving her money. The worst kind of guy wouldn’t even give her money, would he?