I have an agreement with my papa (a male supporter) to receive a set monthly allowance. Until now, he’s handed it to me in person whenever we meet once a month.
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However, it looks like we won’t be able to meet this month because of his schedule. I’m thinking of asking him to transfer this month’s allowance to my bank account.
From a man’s perspective, would he be offended if I asked for my allowance even though we can’t meet this month?
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This is where you place your bet.
If it were me, I’d bet on: “Don’t bring it up yourself. Wait until they choose to tell you.” It’s more effective when you think about the long-term consequences.
If I were short on cash, I’d still bet on this—even if it meant taking out a loan from Acom and scraping by for about a month.
Winning by betting on that kind of thrill—isn’t that what it’s all about? Or maybe not, lol.
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When agreeing on “a monthly allowance of ___,” it might avoid any misunderstandings if you clearly establish from the start what happens “even if we don’t get to meet.”
That said, I understand a monthly arrangement to mean that this is the amount paid regardless of how many times you meet that month. Whether it’s zero times or thirty times, I feel it’s the man’s responsibility to pay as agreed.
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Why not take the first meeting as an opportunity to see how things go?
You have almost nothing to gain by pressing for it.
Are you going to choose the immediate payoff,
or can you survive as a long-term holding?
Which do you think is the wiser choice?
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Everyone sees things differently, so the respondent’s view may not match that of your partner.
Personally, if we have a monthly arrangement and I’m unable to meet because of my own circumstances, I would proactively send her the allowance. If she had to remind me about it, I’d feel ashamed that I’d put her in that position.
That said, I’d prefer to avoid making a bank transfer.
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If she’s someone I’m close to, I’d give her an allowance even if we weren’t meeting—that would be only natural.
If I was already thinking about ending things, I might use it as an opportunity to block her and say goodbye.
It really depends on how close we were and our history together.
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