The other day, I met a man I connected with through a papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) app for the first time. We had agreed on an adult relationship (intimate) for ¥50,000.
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We parted ways after about two hours. When I messaged him afterward to thank him, he replied, “Thank you too. I had a great time. I’ll contact you again,” and that was it.
But the next day, he suddenly asked, “I know this is last-minute, but can you meet again tonight? If you already have plans, no worries.” I hadn’t expected him to invite me two days in a row, but I was free and wanted to earn some extra spending money, so I met him again.
He gave me another ¥50,000, and we spent about two hours together before parting ways.
Afterward, I messaged him again: “Thank you for today as well. I was happy that you invited me. I’m looking forward to seeing you again.”
He only replied, “Yes!”
Since he invited me two days in a row, I thought he must have liked me, but am I just misunderstanding the situation?
I expected him to say something like, “I’ll contact you again,” so what do you think about him replying with only “Yes!”?
A third date? Is there an invitation for another date?
Or maybe you could try inviting him to the next date yourself. If your papa (a male supporter) agrees, you can continue seeing each other.
If he doesn’t invite you again and declines even when you ask, then I’d say it’s probably over.
Even if I think, “Huh? Maybe we’re not physically compatible?” the first time, I’ll still meet him a second time, thinking it might feel different. But in most cases, my first impression turns out to be right: we’re still not compatible, it doesn’t feel good, I’m not satisfied, and I end up thinking, “I’ll ask someone else next time.”
That could be the case this time too.
If the two hours included having tea and taking a shower, then the adult relationship (intimate) itself was probably only about an hour, right? Did it feel like he just wanted to get it over with quickly? lol
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This is Kobayashi from the Shinjuku branch.
As the other respondents have said, I don’t think you need to worry about it!
Why not invite him out for tea or a meal as well?
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Getting 50,000 yen for an adult relationship through a recent app is a pretty good deal.
It’s great that you found someone who actually paid you that amount on both days.
Still, I have a feeling it might be difficult to keep seeing him regularly… somehow.
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After only two or three meetings, there’s really no way to know whether they genuinely like you or not.
You may feel anxious, but it probably takes about six months before you truly get to know someone and feel comfortable with them.
Until then, I think it’s best to treat it as a trial period and proceed cautiously.
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So it’s just sex—you don’t go out for meals or anything, right?
Since you keep getting invited back, I guess you must be good at sex.
Don’t people on apps usually go out for meals and get to know each other better?
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You may be liked as an affordable sex partner.
If that’s the case, he’ll call you over two days in a row when he’s in the mood, wrap things up after two hours, and reply to your LINE messages with just, “Yes!”
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They may simply have been busy, and the content of your previous exchange was fairly matter-of-fact anyway. I don’t think you need to worry about it too much. There’s still a chance they’ll contact you when the desire arises again.
In the first place, the fact that it lasted two hours means their desire for an adult relationship (intimate) was certainly satisfied over the course of two days. Whether they enjoyed it enough to want more won’t be clear until some time has passed.
And even if you weren’t perfectly compatible, they may still reach out after a while when that desire comes back.
If you both happen to have a brief window to meet that day and can satisfy each other’s needs, I think there’s value in it for both of you.
I think they’re looking for nothing more and nothing less than that.
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