That’s simply showing the options the man checked on his end.
On the male profile settings page, there are six relationship types. The first three are “a platonic relationship,” “start with a dinner date,” and “see how we feel about each other after meeting.” These roughly correspond to women’s relationship types A–C. I generally tailor my approach to the woman, so I change my selection to match her when I make an offer. But I do sometimes forget, and unlike the women’s type selection, you can check all the options, so there were periods when I just checked everything because it was a hassle.
Incidentally, the remaining three of the six are “I want to enjoy a pseudo-romantic relationship through a dating club,” “short-term financial support,” and “long-term financial support”—options that already feel rather distorted in terms of their underlying assumptions. There’s no option like, “Money is involved, but I still want to build a genuine human relationship.” And apparently it’s considered financial support whether it’s short-term or long-term. PATRO has the same sort of vibe. I think talking that way in marketing aimed at women is reasonable, but does it really work for men? Isn’t the more common understanding simply, “I’ll pay, but I’d rather phrase it more delicately”?
Getting back to the main point, “I’m fine with dinner only” is one of the options that appears under “Requests for the woman” on the offer application screen. There are six choices, and you can select multiple ones:
- “Please have dinner before you come. Let’s take our time talking over tea.”
- “Since we’re planning to have a meal together, I’d like you to come hungry.”
- “I’d like you to come dressed somewhat formally.”
- “I’d like you to come in casual clothes that aren’t too flashy.”
- “I’m fine with a dinner date only for the first meeting. Please feel free to come.”
- “I’ll pick you up by car. Is that okay?”
There are various things about these that feel a little off to me too, but when I make an offer to someone with type A or B, I check “I’m fine with a dinner date only for the first meeting.” It’s meant to show that I understand her relationship type. It’s basically like a waiter repeating your order at a restaurant, so there’s no need to worry about it.
As for the final question: wanting a one-on-one arrangement rather than seeing multiple people is also a common request from men. However, given how dating clubs work, I think both sides generally start out assuming that they’ll be seeing multiple people. If things go well, you’ll probably narrow it down, but you have to make an effort to get there. I choose the earliest dates the women suggest and meet as many of them as I can.
Once, there was a woman who said she only wanted to meet once or twice a month, and she got angry when I made offers to other women. I thought, “Why??” Men’s sperm is said to be fully replenished in three days, so saying once or twice a month basically means, “Don’t see anyone else—just masturbate and wait for me.” Who does she think she is, a queen? It was so selfish that I couldn’t understand it at all.
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When a man sends an offer, the confirmation screen has several checkboxes, such as:
- Whether transportation by private car is involved
- Asking her to arrive hungry
- Asking her to dress casually
- Dinner only (no intimacy)
There are fields where he can select these options. I’ve never seen the woman’s screen, so this is just my guess, but I assume that checking one of these automatically adds the corresponding text to the message.
As for your question, I think he simply checked the “dinner only” option and sent the offer to someone with Dating Type B. I don’t think there was any deeper meaning behind it.
This is only my personal interpretation, but I hope it helps.
