I’m currently seeing about four women, but I’m starting to feel like it might be time to end things with one of them. (We’ve been seeing each other for over six months, with an allowance of ¥50,000 per meeting.)

“I want you to look only at me.” “I want this to be my last relationship.” “You’re the one I want.” When I hear things like that, they really touch my heart. It makes me feel that he might cherish me for a long time, so I can genuinely face him with sincerity. Don’t start a half-hearted relationship and then toss me aside after just six months or so… I might bite you! ♡ From a hungry girl with a taste for romance ♡

Come on, senpai—you’re over 60. Surely you know there’s no such thing as words that won’t hurt the other person. Besides, when you say the other person won’t get hurt, what you really mean is that you won’t get hurt, right? Why don’t we both take a few more risks and do our best?

I’m with Nichigetsu Arata on this one! I think it’s fine to tell her that you can no longer afford the allowance. That said, since she’ll be in a difficult position if the allowance disappears, you should negotiate in a way that makes her still want to see you while receiving an allowance. If the allowance for each meeting is too high, it can become a burden, so try negotiating a lower amount—one that allows you to keep seeing each other as often as you like. I’m not sure about negotiating a reduction after only two or three meetings, but perhaps you could bring it up after you’ve been seeing each other for two or three years. In my case, I’ve been seeing my current partner for six years. After the first three years, we settled on an amount that wasn’t too much of a burden for me, while still being enough for her to feel comfortable meeting me. I’ll continue seeing her until she says she wants to stop, and since she has no fear of being cut off, she still happily comes to see me（笑）

Put simply, in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), the man says he wants to meet her in exchange for an allowance, and the woman agrees. Why not look at it as nothing more than those meetings continuing at regular intervals for six months? I think you’re making things unnecessarily complicated because you see it as a relationship. Can you really call it dating when she wouldn’t meet you without an allowance? This reminds me of a story from Kyoto. Apparently, a man around the same age as—or slightly older than—the person asking the question was hospitalized, and a familiar woman from the geisha district came to visit him out of concern, bringing a small bento or something. But then he was charged for the flowers. I seem to recall the punchline being that she stopped visiting him after he tried to skimp on the flower fee. Why not tell her, “Due to personal circumstances, I’m no longer able to pay your allowance”? If, by some chance, she replies that she still wants to meet, then you can decide to keep seeing her because she has feelings for you—or stop because you’ve grown tired of her. As for an excuse, how about, “I’m broke and have no time”? Most likely, she’ll respond with something like, “Please contact me when you’re able to pay the allowance again.” When that happens, you’ll have cleared up your own misconception that you’re in a relationship, and you’ll also be free of a woman you’ve grown tired of—a win-win. Best of luck.

I think the best thing to do is simply stop contacting her—and ignore her if she reaches out. If it’s over, you should move on quickly and look for someone else. Dragging out communication that has no future is just a waste of time for both of you. Some people might say you should thank her at the end and give her a generous amount of money as a parting gift. Well, if that’s what you want to do, go ahead. Women are probably more pragmatic than men realize. If you’re not going to meet her, she won’t be fooled no matter how many beautiful words you use—she’ll think, “But you’re not going to see me, are you?” And if you’re willing to give her a large severance payment, she’ll probably put on a flawless, tearjerking performance for you. Getting into allowance-based dating without any genuine feelings is dishonest to begin with, isn’t it? You could say you’ve already hurt her plenty just by doing that. So why worry about it now? As an aside, this has made me want to have Mimiwa again for the first time in ages. lol https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/14161 Taro