I got drunk.

You’ve probably woken up by now with a puffy face and feeling sluggish, haven’t you? Drink plenty of water and flush it out through your urine. You really did drink a lot, didn’t you… That’s quite an amount for someone who wants to maintain a certain level of elegance. Even if you’re going to drink a lot, try to limit it to around two glasses of wine. You’re not out at an izakaya with friends, after all. You may have other offers, but if you want to pursue an arrangement with someone you genuinely like, meet each of them two or three times first and take your time deciding. I’d recommend choosing someone you don’t feel tired being around.

Female members of Universe Club often list how well they handle alcohol and what kinds of drinks they like. In that case, it’s usually easy to tell whether she enjoys drinking or not, so if she gets drunk, it’s probably within the man’s expectations. Putting on an act can sometimes be off-putting if it turns into that old-fashioned, overly cutesy behavior, but if it’s natural and ordinary, she’ll probably come across as considerate and charming. Some men may even feel that they’re becoming closer as she gradually lets her guard down. On the other hand, a man with old-fashioned views that women shouldn’t get drunk and drink heavily in public may see it as a negative. Someone who enjoys drinking together, or who feels happy when a woman becomes more uninhibited while tipsy and shows him her true self, may actually view it positively. In any case, you probably don’t want him thinking, “She drank all that for free.” So, either at the time or in a message shortly afterward, it may be a good idea to offer a favorable explanation for having gotten drunk. For example: “You were just so wonderful that I ended up drinking more than I meant to.” “I was having such a lovely time talking with you that I completely lost track of how much I’d had…” “I was so happy to meet you that I got carried away…” Just make sure to phrase it in a feminine, natural way. If he really was a wonderful person, why not communicate honestly and say that you’re worried you may have made a bad impression? Also, each person is a separate individual: the person who made you an offer is one person, the person you’ve already met is another, and so on. Treat each meeting as a once-in-a-lifetime encounter and respond according to the individual man in front of you. Wouldn’t someone who can offer each customer a delicious made-to-order meal—whether ramen, fried rice, or a chocolate parfait—be more loved than a restaurant that can only serve ramen to everyone? I hope you don’t turn yourself into a specialty shop that only offers the same “putting on an act plus drinking a little” set menu.

You’re cuter when you drink. More importantly, it makes things more fun. Besides, I don’t think you can really enjoy yourself with an older papa without the help of alcohol, so don’t hold back—have a drink and let loose a little. At first, it’s cute when you put on a sweet, innocent act. Then, gradually letting your true self show is nice too. As the drinks keep flowing, you may end up revealing all sorts of things—not just your real personality. That’s refreshing in its own way, and I get to enjoy those little heart-fluttering moments.

It’s fine to drink, but if you don’t handle being drunk well, you’re probably better off not getting drunk. I think you should ask some male friends who will give you their honest opinion. Female friends, too. Marika

You’re an adult, so I think it’s fine to drink alcohol. Cute people are still cute even when they drink. He must have been a great guy, so I think you were just nervous. If you acted all sweet and innocent, keep it up—eventually it’ll become the real you. Keep practicing just like that.