It’s about a Christmas present.

My papa asked me to choose something costing no more than ¥150,000, so I gave him two options: something priced at ¥70,000 and something priced at ¥20,000. Of course, I’m grateful just to receive anything. I chose one thing I’d genuinely be happy to receive and one everyday item I regularly use. Both are within the price limit. We probably won’t go shopping together, and it seems I’ll receive only one of the two. Should I have let myself ask for more? I feel uncomfortable asking for something at the full amount because I’d feel burdened by having to give something back in return. I also included the ¥20,000 option because I thought it would be easier for him to give without making either of us feel awkward. From a man’s perspective, would he feel like he got off cheaply in this situation? Would you choose the more expensive ¥70,000 option for her? I could ask him directly, but it seems the surprise of which one he bought will be saved for the day itself. Most papas don’t give presents at all, and they tend to avoid bringing up the subject, so I’m genuinely grateful just to receive one. On the other hand, a woman told me—somewhat spitefully—that compared with men who give women luxury gifts worth millions of yen, this papa might have several women and ¥150,000 may be his limit per person, so he’d probably be happy if she asked for something inexpensive. I feel like I’m testing how he feels about me. If it’s the more expensive one, I’ll think, “As expected of him.” If it’s the cheaper one, I’ll figure that although he spreads his money among other women too, having other women around makes things easier for him emotionally. The easiest arrangement would be with a generous papa who has lots of other women and doesn’t message me very often. But from his perspective, I’m sure the reality isn’t that simple—he’d probably prefer someone who doesn’t cost him much extra and who treats him like her primary boyfriend or papa.