Christmas is just around the corner. Do you give gifts or anything like that to your favorite girl?
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I’ve been involved with several women in the past, but aside from the allowance, the most I ever did was take them to a slightly nicer restaurant, give them some nice sweets, or book a somewhat nicer hotel.
When it came to gifts, we both completely avoided the subject.
Part of the reason was that I never brought it up myself. I didn’t want things to become a hassle if asking indirectly made her demands stronger or caused her to cut ties with me—and I didn’t really want anything in particular anyway.
I was a papa (a male supporter) whom they seemed to genuinely consider a favorite.
That said, some of them also mentioned having been taken advantage of in the past by women who were only after gifts and money.
I can practically feel them flinch whenever the conversation turns to material things, so I get the impression they dislike having to spend extra money.
I already have pretty much everything I need and don’t really want anything, so it’s fine. But around Christmas, I see posts from women saying what they’ve been given, and I can’t help feeling envious.
I know reality probably isn’t that sweet, but I’d love to hear about everyone’s Christmas experiences.
Thank you.
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In my case, I give Christmas and birthday gifts to women I’m close with. It may sound rude to talk about how important someone is, but it depends on how much I value her. Sometimes it’s a small beauty item; other times, it might be a designer handbag. What matters is how long I want things to continue and how much I care about her—but that has to be mutual.
So if she’s thinking, “I don’t even like my papa (a male supporter), but I’ll get him to buy me a bag,” I don’t think the man would buy it either. In the end, I believe what matters is how both people feel about each other.
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When it comes to men and women, women are generally the ones who care more about Christmas and gifts—and younger women tend to care more than older women.
So it’s only natural that there’s a clear difference in expectations between a young woman and an older man, and I think it’s better not to expect too much.
Of course, that might be different if you had some technique for keeping him interested with dinner dates without becoming intimate, while hinting that something might happen at Christmas. But honestly, isn’t it more like, “You’re only a compensated-dating girl, after all”?
That said, there are always some men who love events and giving presents. If you happen to meet one of them, he might give you something—whether you’re his girlfriend, mistress, or compensated-dating partner.
By the way, my papa (a male supporter) and I are pretty similar to Date◎Yume’s situation. Come to think of it, I also have a papa who sometimes adds a little extra to my allowance.
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I just remembered: I once had someone who disliked giving cash allowances and always bought me clothes and things instead. With him, I received a diamond necklace and a cashmere coat.
Even so, I felt that the men who gave me a regular allowance at each meeting probably ended up paying more overall.
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I’ve never given or received a present.
If a woman asked me for something, I think I’d lose interest.
It probably depends on the papa, but I’m the type who’d rather have her buy whatever she likes with her allowance.
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In my case, during the first year or two of the relationship, I often talked about Christmas and birthday presents, but around the third year, I gradually stopped bringing them up.
These days, it’s more like, “Want to go out for some good food?” “Yes, let’s!”
That’s how things stand with Christmas and birthday gifts.
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I may have never given anyone a Christmas present in my life. I’m not Christian, but I’m not Buddhist either—I’m nonreligious, or maybe more Shinto-oriented. I always go to a shrine for the New Year and pray to meet a great woman every year (it seems to work, lol).
Seriously, I’m sure couples give each other Christmas presents, but those gifts come from genuine feelings, so I think they’re on a completely different level from a sugar dating woman expecting a bonus.
And it’s not just Christmas—it happens with birthdays, too. I once met a woman who said, “It’s my birthday this month” every time we met. We’d only gone two months without seeing each other, though. She seemed to have so many birthdays that she must be aging quickly. I felt sorry for her, but I didn’t give her a present.
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> I get a little nervous whenever the conversation turns to material things, wondering if I’m about to be asked to buy something.
It’s actually kind of fun heading to places the woman wants to go, wondering which way things will go.
Women are often considerate, or even enjoy teasing me a little…
The longer the relationship lasts and the closer we become, the more our attitudes toward money start to align. We end up buying things they genuinely need, and if there’s nothing they really want, they won’t buy anything just for the sake of it.
Once we’ve built a relationship of trust, sometimes I’ll buy something expensive, and other times it’ll be something incredibly cheap.
Of course, there are also times when I buy something expensive even on the first meeting…
I enjoy the time we spend together, so when we go out to different places, I’ll buy Christmas presents too.
I also give birthday presents, and I’m still seeing all the women from the club whom I’ve given both Christmas and birthday presents to. I only give those kinds of gifts to women I genuinely like.
A beautiful friend of mine who joined a club receives an extraordinary number of presents from the male members. She says that since she already gets so much from them, she doesn’t need anything from me, and it’s more comfortable when things stay as they were—with no allowance or presents when we meet.
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