I’ve had the same papa (a male supporter) for about three years.

You could say, in a cute, gentle way: “I get jealous, so could you please stop sending me photos of your family?” and politely ask him to stop. That papa (a male supporter) is either pretty thick-skinned or just the right amount of oblivious. Personally, when I’m with a papa-katsu woman, I never bring up or involve my family at all. It kills the mood for me. These days, I choose papa-katsu women who are older than my daughter. When they’re around my daughter’s age, I feel just a tiny bit guilty. Maybe I won’t care as much once my daughter gets older, though... lol.

Sorry, but I’ve never felt down in the first place by comparing myself with my papa’s daughter or family. I do think things like, “Her dad was strict, but her papa really spoils his daughter,” though. I’m grateful that I was raised strictly, so when I hear about how much a papa must love his daughter, it actually makes me think, “I should do more for my own parents.” Another major reason I don’t get depressed might be that I’d hate having a father who does papa-katsu. A father who does papa-katsu and sleeps with young women is the absolute worst, right? Sometimes I even think, “If his daughter or wife found out about this, they’d probably be devastated. I feel so sorry for them.” Maybe I’m just a mean person. I was wondering whether you could try looking at it that way too, but maybe that’s difficult.

Thank you for your question. I’ll share my thoughts as well. Some women only do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) with single men and won’t see married men, so I don’t think your view is particularly strange. That said, if you only see unmarried men, your pool of potential partners will probably be smaller, so you’ll need to consider how to handle that. If it’s too difficult for you, I recommend only seeing unmarried men. Ultimately, it’s a matter of personal choice.

For someone who’s been doing this for three years, you seem to have a pretty sensible outlook. But if you want to earn money, sometimes you have to set aside your own sense of what’s normal—or even your conscience—not just in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), but in any line of work. If you’re going to continue, you may need to ask him to stop sending photos. Even if that gives you temporary relief, you’ll need to become a little stronger and learn to treat it as a transactional relationship; otherwise, you’ll find yourself struggling with the same issues again.

Those feelings are important, so please value them. As the relationship continues, it can start to feel normal, and even when you no longer really need it, you may find yourself unable to bring it to an end. It’s important to draw the line somewhere. Keep going while watching for the right opportunity and timing to end the relationship.

I think it’s important to let them know that “our circumstances are different.” It’s also true that quite a number of girls do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) because of their family’s financial situation—or rather, because they have no choice but to. From their perspective, those photos could be seen as flaunting differences that make them feel even more painfully aware of their already desperate, awful, hellish circumstances. I think it’s perfectly understandable that you feel that way, and it’s also very sensible that you haven’t told anyone around you.

I don’t compare myself to other people in the first place, so I can’t really understand how you feel. But I think it’s better to tell him clearly when something bothers you. When you do, I think it’s best to explain why and frame it as a request. Marika Added after reading Mac’s answer: I only get jealous of my wife when it comes to my favorite papa (a male supporter). So I told him not to talk about his wife or show me photos of her when we’re together. At first, I didn’t mind him calling her next to me, but I started liking him more and more. So these days, he seems to be considerate of my feelings.

It’s a perfectly normal feeling, so please don’t worry. A lot of women find it painful. Keep working toward your dreams without giving up. Please refer to my answer below: https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/14269 P.S. Reading the answers from Maezawa and others, they seem to be focusing on the fact that “the man is married,” but I think the real point of this question is the “daughter.” Questions about “papa’s daughter” come up periodically. The background is the unfairness of being born into different families and the problem of social inequality. I’ll copy and paste my answer from the link above. Most married papas are probably too insensitive to notice, and no matter how much you explain it, it won’t really sink in. So I think the only option is to explain it to them as follows: === When they hear about a papa’s daughter around their own age, they often seem to feel miserable, thinking, “She’s living happily just because she was born into his family, while I have to be intimate with him just to receive money.” Some women are fine with seeing a photo of the wife, but feel uncomfortable if young children are in it. They may think, “Maybe I’m going to be the reason this family falls apart.” I’ve never heard anyone say they were jealous of the wife. Considering the risk of being sued for compensation, knowing what kind of person the wife is could be useful, so if he’s willing to show you a photo, it might be better to see one. But when you think about it, sending a family photo basically means, “You’re dating a married man.” If his wife saw that message history, she’d probably be furious. So how about explaining that and saying, from a risk-avoidance standpoint, “Please don’t send me any more photos like that”? Something like: “When you send me photos like these, if your wife ever finds out, it could look like I was knowingly involved in an affair, which might make her resent me even more. So I’d rather you didn’t.” I often see Paper Airplane and Seattle writing little complaints about their own daughters. I wonder what’s going on psychologically—do women around the same age feel envious because those daughters are living so boldly, and think they should make their own daughters take notes? Even if they’re disappointing daughters, they’re still living happily simply because they won the birth lottery. It only highlights the social hierarchy and inequality, so I don’t think it’s something to be proud of, lol. The more they complain, the more counterproductive it becomes; they’re just spreading sadness throughout the papa-katsu community.

The other day, while soaking in an open-air bath in Ginzan Onsen, Yamagata, after getting a G-cup woman all worked up, we talked about how it isn’t easy to define what “normal” really means. We never quite reached a conclusion, but I thought the questioner’s emotional ups and downs were perfectly normal—about as normal as me feeling like getting carried away whenever I step into an open-air bath. That said, I can’t really understand why you would ask this kind of question here, so perhaps that part isn’t quite normal. Still, that’s just the rambling of someone who always feels like getting carried away in an open-air bath, so please don’t pay it any mind. I hope you can properly communicate your feelings to your papa (a male supporter) and enjoy a calm, happy relationship.